Taking Sex Differences in Personality Seriously (2019)

It’s also helping me understand women more.

I disagree. I think you're understanding your own experience more, but then you've trying to fit that to what you see or hear about from women based on a lot of assumptions that probably aren't valid.

Since we have no direct access to the internal mental state of others (and scarcely that of ourselves sometimes!) we can never be sure that we're experiencing what others are. There's a millennia-old thought experiment about imaging how we each experience the color red. How can I know that what you experience when you see an apple or a fire engine is anything like what I experience? If we could stimulate the same neurons in the optic nerve or in the various brain structures, would we each understand the stimulus as "red"? And I think that modern observations of phenomenon like synesthesia suggest that our internal qualia really do differ a lot.

That leads me to believe that it's wrong to think that hormones have changed you to experiencing things "the way a woman would", and more strongly, I'm skeptical that there's any set of qualia that can be placed in a bucket as how a woman experiences the world - I think it's absolutely individual.

(this also, by the way, makes me question how anyone can believe that their internal experience more closely matches "being a man" or "being a woman")

The problem is not of one isolated mouse but a society of mice and how your physical size, vulnerability (men don't have period pains or pregnancies) affect how you relate to society and thus your personality.

This division is arbitrary. The reason for this is the premise of fair competition that identical people should compete. Yet white males dominate male swimming whereas black males dominate male sprinting. There have been physiological explanations based on center of mass things afaik. Knowing that, why don't we split the competitions accordingly? Martial arts have categories based on weight, why shouldn't we have categories based on arm-length or blood volume? It's easy to see that the whole premise of fair competition is very naïve: where do you stop? What are the criteria for determining if competitors are "identical enough"? Choosing these criteria will be a political choice. Transgender people in sports are disturbing the status quo, but they just made apparent the inherent instability of the thing.

Now i don't know about you, but when i personally do sports, for one i'm not good enough that physiological characteristics make the greatest differences: this problem mostly appears when we reach the limits, by "optimal training". Second, i'm playing as an amateur, that is for entertainment and for the art of it, which means that i will mostly play to be part of a good game, show off and see nice skill displays, and share this experience with other people, some of them with different levels of training and physical capabilities.

I just wanted to say that this thread is imho unrelated to the issues of transgender and more to the fact that competitive sports is broken and the political struggle between professional and amateur sport.

Women are not a permanent lower caste. In term of their social status (and social economic status) their median are similar, even slightly higher than men. Their variance is much smaller, with few women at the very high and and very few at the very bottom. This difference in variance do causes problem for society but the fixes are less obvious than in cast societies where one demographic fully dominate the bottom of society. When looking at household social status, women have much higher in average social status than men (for the above reasons).

Women are also not victims of violence more men. The opposite is true. Men are much more likely victim of violence then women. Women are much less likely however to be perpetrators of violence towards men. In term of behavior there is also the slightly less known fact that in domestic context, violence from a man to a woman, man towards an other man, and woman towards an other woman is identical in violent domestic disputes per household. This is why the full title of those reports tend to be called "men's violence again women and violence in same sex relationships". The implication in terms of genetics is that either a person sexual preference influence violence, or women and men are equally violent but in different contexts.

(Edit: To pull down some statistics from Sweden as an example. Men are the most common recipient to need social support. Single men without children living below poverty line are more than twice the size of the next group below, which is single women without children living below poverty line. The group after that is single mothers, and the one after that are families with two married adults and at least one child.)