In my opinion, the excitement occasioned by the discovery of so many exoplanets has clouded our collective judgement on the Fermi Paradox, leading the overwhelmingly most probable resolution to be underemphasized. Namely: there is no life out there. Not due to baroque mechanisms such as techno-self-destruction but just due to its sheer unlikeliness. As large as the number of stars in the observable universe is (let’s…
If we were near the end and had the same paradox I'd say you're probably right in that the answer is there is no life.
But we're really really early, so either we're a total fluke and the first or there's another reason.
Basically what I'm saying is if you're right and the probabilities are so low then I'd think we should either not exist or the timelines I've sketched are very very off