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Her account is still up, and FB talks about her like she’s alive.
There’s no way for me to inform FB that the inevitable has become actual.
FB has a “memorial archive” feature, but distant relatives have to way of initiating it. The people closest to her don’t have a Facebook recognized connection.
She’s been gone over a decade.
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Wow, that's pretty brave! Congratulations for actually acting on it. I have a similar impulse but I'm completely tied down by responsibilities and family so no way to act on it. Especially having kids is an enormous factor in things like this and dealing with their future and how to best prepare them for it.
My younger (step)son is 20. I wanted to ease him into taking responsibility. We rented the house to him and two of his best friends who we have known forever and we know their parents at a discount. Their rent just covers interest and taxes and the three non fixed utility bills. We still cover the internet, yard, HOA, pest, trash, etc. We were going to do that at least two years. But, I was using my stock vests to of…
My wife has one metastasis on her spine , it was detected 33 day ago, I fear that moment where she will be suffering enough that she will qualify for medically assisted death. According to the paper accompanying her incredibly expensive drugs (5700$/month) she has between twelve and eighty-eight months left ... I hope that she will cost money to my insurance for a long time! According to her oncologist we cannot know…
Fuck cancer. All the best to you and your wife.
As a society, we have the option of greatly reducing cancer deaths whenever we so choose. Let’s do that rather than raging against something that feels nothing.
It has been over 15 years since the Last Lecture and we still have done little for pancreatic cancer, for example.
According to Craig Venter, early detection is what we need to eliminate cancer: https://youtu.be/iUqgTYbkHP8?t=15m37s
No one is saying it’s going to be easy but we’re going to make a lot of progress over the next 25 years. Let’s decide to do more sooner.
Anyone else feeling anxious over their own mortality after reading this?
Once you have kids (my apologies assuming you don't if you do, but perhaps other readers should be aware), you start to feel that every day - not only worrying how they'll be cared for materially, but also how they'd cope with the loss developmentally.
Anyone else feeling anxious over their own mortality after reading this?
“Why should I fear death? If I am, then death is not. If Death is, then I am not." - Epicurious
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Once you have kids (my apologies assuming you don't if you do, but perhaps other readers should be aware), you start to feel that every day - not only worrying how they'll be cared for materially, but also how they'd cope with the loss developmentally.
I couldn't say this any better. Once you have kids, everything changes. The impact of getting ill is no longer how it affects you, if you've done enough with your time, but how it will affect them. It's like a dark cloud that follows, in the back of your mind every day. Ultimately, it helps you realise what really matters, and what doesn't.
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Ever since I lost my parents to cancer and sarcoidosis, I'm more aware of life. However, as I'm currently struggling financially, I'm afraid of every day I spent thinking about my finances and not my life. I think it takes a lot of courage to face your last tweet...
Drop me a line please, can't find your email address.
Anyone else feeling anxious over their own mortality after reading this?
I feel very sad and Bad. I Hope there will me a miracle for this man. If he reads my comment, i want him to know i give him a lot of love, to this dad of children and to his children and all of his family, and that I want to cry. Hope a miracle will be, really. From a French young computer scientist.
It's natural to feel this way. Also consider that all creatures before us went away in this way as well, and all will. Even if we attain superhuman lifespans, one day something will put an end to our lives. Finally, consider being curious about death itself. There are many strange and interesting features of the death of a sapient being.
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No joke :/. My cousin recently passed from Hodgkin's Lymphoma- they told her that the vast majority of patients have at least five years, many of whom have at least ten. That was a little over two years ago.
Gah that sucks. The randomness of it all is maddening. I buried an uncle a few months ago, he had a very nasty case of cancer and was in so much pain that we were all so grateful that at least here in NL there was the option to throw in the towel. He was a super nice man and I regret not having more contact with him in my life (my family is rather fragmented). But so much suffering is just too much to inflict on anyb…
He was a real fighter, and had several goals - to see his son turn 21, to get to some big rowing champs, etc.
He achieved some of those goals, and missed out on others. But as his disease wore on, he became so disabled and in so much pain that life was a true misery. Not just for him but for his loved ones, who were also his carers.
His last few months were not good for anyone and both my wife and I decided we would rather shuffle off than extend our lives in a similar situation.