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Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by bigwavedave »

jacquesm wrote: post #36
bigwavedave wrote: post #34

Once upon a time, I was diagnosed with a brain tumor that would kill me within a year. Eight years later and it hasn't yet. I'm sorry you had this happen- I hope your pain is gone soon, brother. Fuck cancer.

You are so lucky. I know quite a few cases where it was the opposite. "Oh, you've got years left". And then a funeral three months or so later. Cancer really sucks.

No joke :/. My cousin recently passed from Hodgkin's Lymphoma- they told her that the vast majority of patients have at least five years, many of whom have at least ten. That was a little over two years ago.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by grrandalf »

endorphine wrote: post #3

Anyone else feeling anxious over their own mortality after reading this?

Yes. But I think I would be more anxious if I had not read these two books.

* book "Staring into the Sun" * book "How we Die"

Eliding my 2c on these books -- it's your 2c that matters.

LLAP

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by PartiallyTyped »

endorphine wrote: post #3

Anyone else feeling anxious over their own mortality after reading this?

I had seriously contemplated suicide multiple times in my life (about 6 so far), and every time I managed to escape the intrusive thoughts. I have a heart condition and I may just drop dead, thus living alone means that there is nobody to regurgitate me.

The way I have reconciled this is through accepting that I have already died, thus every day is a gift.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by bigwavedave »

ReptileMan wrote: post #40
jacquesm wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You are so lucky. I know quite a few cases where it was the opposite. "Oh, you've got years left". And then a funeral three months or so later. Cancer really sucks.

There are two types of cancer. One that you will die with, the other you will die from. Unfortunately you never know which is which until it is too late. I hope that some immune treatments will be approved soon. Seem to be promising

> There are two types of cancer. One that you will die with, the other you will die from. Unfortunately you never know which is which until it is too late.

Spot on.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by JoeAltmaier »

ReptileMan wrote: post #40
jacquesm wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You are so lucky. I know quite a few cases where it was the opposite. "Oh, you've got years left". And then a funeral three months or so later. Cancer really sucks.

There are two types of cancer. One that you will die with, the other you will die from. Unfortunately you never know which is which until it is too late. I hope that some immune treatments will be approved soon. Seem to be promising

Yes! New treatments at the UofIowa are sending patients home cured. Not in remission. Only very specific cancers, and at great cost. But there may be light at the end of the tunnel.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by jacquesm »

bigwavedave wrote: post #41
jacquesm wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You are so lucky. I know quite a few cases where it was the opposite. "Oh, you've got years left". And then a funeral three months or so later. Cancer really sucks.

No joke :/. My cousin recently passed from Hodgkin's Lymphoma- they told her that the vast majority of patients have at least five years, many of whom have at least ten. That was a little over two years ago.

Gah that sucks. The randomness of it all is maddening.

I buried an uncle a few months ago, he had a very nasty case of cancer and was in so much pain that we were all so grateful that at least here in NL there was the option to throw in the towel. He was a super nice man and I regret not having more contact with him in my life (my family is rather fragmented). But so much suffering is just too much to inflict on anybody. I can't seem to get through six months right now without a funeral and given the age of my extended family members that trend is likely not going to change for a long time to come.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by jacquesm »

JoeAltmaier wrote: post #45
ReptileMan wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There are two types of cancer. One that you will die with, the other you will die from. Unfortunately you never know which is which until it is too late. I hope that some immune treatments will be approved soon. Seem to be promising

Yes! New treatments at the UofIowa are sending patients home cured. Not in remission. Only very specific cancers, and at great cost. But there may be light at the end of the tunnel.

That is incredibly good news, let's hope they manage to expand this kind of treatment.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by imdsm »

nick__m wrote: post #15

My wife has one metastasis on her spine , it was detected 33 day ago, I fear that moment where she will be suffering enough that she will qualify for medically assisted death. According to the paper accompanying her incredibly expensive drugs (5700$/month) she has between twelve and eighty-eight months left ... I hope that she will cost money to my insurance for a long time! According to her oncologist we cannot know…

Fuck cancer. I wish you the longest possible time.

Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left

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Post by scarface74 »

jacquesm wrote: post #28
scarface74 wrote: post #21

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I’ve been anxious about my mortality since Covid hit. Not because I was necessarily afraid of dying, I was afraid of dying with regret and not living life to the fullest. So my wife and I decided to just be “hybrid digital nomads” flying across the US with a few weeks in Mexico and Canada so we could be in US time zones. We will be living in Florida from September through mid March and traveling the other six months…

Wow, that's pretty brave! Congratulations for actually acting on it. I have a similar impulse but I'm completely tied down by responsibilities and family so no way to act on it. Especially having kids is an enormous factor in things like this and dealing with their future and how to best prepare them for it.

My younger (step)son is 20. I wanted to ease him into taking responsibility. We rented the house to him and two of his best friends who we have known forever and we know their parents at a discount. Their rent just covers interest and taxes and the three non fixed utility bills. We still cover the internet, yard, HOA, pest, trash, etc.

We were going to do that at least two years. But, I was using my stock vests to offset the costs and well you know how stock is doing these days.

Next year we will add a set fee to partially offset some of those expenses like a real apartment does.

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