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Re: Ask HN: How do you protect your children from internet addiction?

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My kid's almost three. From day one, we've implemented a zero screen policy. That means no phones, tablets, computers, TV (don't own one), etc. We've read to her since day one and she loves books now and her spoken/listening language skills are way ahead for her age. Wife speaks to her in her native language so she's growing up bilingual too. Wife takes her to parks, mommy and me classes where they have story time, s…

What do you do with her when you are out with friends? Restaurants, etc?

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#22
We went from using YouTube as a babysitter to accepting that we have to reduce our personal time allotment and be more engaged with the child.

The television was removed from the living room wall and the only screen time is shared activity screen time with a parent on the weekends for an hour or so. Lots more board gaming, reading, talking, crafting, playing. Way more parental involvement required.

If there was some way to limit YouTube to specific channels and disable recommendations we might still allow it. Maybe you can do that with premium. In any case, we chose a household solution rather than trying to work in a technical solution.

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#23

For our kids the big problem was youtube. Give them a game on their tablet and they are quickly collaborating on it. Give them a show and they will go see what the other person is watching. After not too long (an hour or two) they are completely done and doing something else. But youtube is different. They can sit alone, in a corner, slack jawed, for 8 hours per day, only watching youtube, as they respond to all ques…

Youtube has been essentially banned in my house after seeing the effect it had on my kids. The problem, in short, was that Youtube continuously feeds them new content. Sadly - especially given the huge amount of actually great content on Youtube - everything that it wants to show my kids is absolutely dogshit garbage. A bunch of Gen Z kids with obviously wealthy families just acting like idiots. I couldn't stand it any more.

I am, in general, a fairly permissive and liberal-minded parent. I had to put my foot down and have just disabled the site on the devices they use.

It makes me sad because I know if they were directed to the right kinds of videos they could learn all kinds of things and be inspired by the creativity of the folks behind them. This is not what comes up in the feed and the content that they've become most interested in is the mental equivalent of eating off-brand Oreos for every meal. Hard pass.

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My 6.5yo has just gotten access to an iPad to do some learn to read training through a specific app. No other apps permitted. Before this there was no access at all to iPads or computers and very limited TV time. We'll continue to slowly introduce tech with heavy guidance and restriction as she ages, but she'll be a lot less online than her peers seem to be. I don't really see this as a detriment.

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#25
i have a 13 and 11 year old. We keep them engaged as much as possible off screen in physical activities. They get plenty of screen time though and I try to do my best to steer them to at least useful content. There's lots of interesting content that children can learn from on youtube especially science and history. I watch with them and try to steer to as much productive content as i can but am not always 100% successful.

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post #9

After having spent a fair amount of time using various different tools to attempt to control their screen time, my conclusion is that it was a mistake to have any screens in the house in the first place. A library of great books, good games, craft and art materials, and a collection of musical instruments would have been the best thing for my kids I'm thinking. Screens just make them addicted and miserable.

> A library of great books, good games, craft and art materials, and a collection of musical instruments would have been the best thing for my kids I'm thinking. Screens just make them addicted and miserable.

I agree in principle, and one of the saddest things to see is the pile of all these wonderful diversions sitting ignored while Youtube plays. (See my other comment about how we have essentially banned Youtube in my house for this reason).

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#27
post #6

Encourage their interests in good things like physical activities, science, technology, books, music, theater.

Internet is technology. It's a blurry line... When mine come up with creative ways to circumvent Internet access restrictions (e.g. use mobile phone as hotspot for the laptop, because for that I had set a limited time window in the router) I'm happy to see a future hacker on one hand, and really pissed on the other hand because I seem to have ended up in an arms race.

Re: Ask HN: How do you protect your children from internet addiction?

#28

My kid's almost three. From day one, we've implemented a zero screen policy. That means no phones, tablets, computers, TV (don't own one), etc. We've read to her since day one and she loves books now and her spoken/listening language skills are way ahead for her age. Wife speaks to her in her native language so she's growing up bilingual too. Wife takes her to parks, mommy and me classes where they have story time, s…

What do you do with her when you are out with friends? Restaurants, etc?

Sit quietly, talk, color, maybe read. Is this hard to believe? We did that.

Re: Ask HN: How do you protect your children from internet addiction?

#29
I have a 3 month old and this is something I am wondering about already, since I am definitely prone to YouTube binging - especially if I'm in a bad mood, tired etc.

I tell myself I need it for background music then before.I know it I'm binge watching comedy routines I've seen 10 times before.

Re: Ask HN: How do you protect your children from internet addiction?

#30

I don't them use my devices outside of school projects and keep them busy doing things outside the house. I realize this is easier for me than most as my oldest is only 13, we homeschool, and we live in a very rural area with high community engagement. Meaning the social pressure to be online just isn't currently there. Once they have a job and can buy their own devices they can do what they please. Hopefully, the di…

Hopefully, the disdainful tone I use when explaining social media companies to them fully sinks in by then.

Yeah kids are famous for doing everything their parents say ;)

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