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Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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So you don't waste time targeting the poors?

Bingo. For example, if you watch Youtube from a very poor country, you might not see any ads.

"Buy our vpn service in $low_income_country and ditch your youtube subscription!" arbitrage opportunity for someone?

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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From a technical perspective why isn't this a solved problem? Identity will always be a difficult problem, but being able to own your own face / likeness by demonstrating it should be technically possible right? Forced visual "captchas" something like "please take a photo standing on one foot and your finger pointed at your nose" Then once you own your likeness with "faceID" likeness similarity isn't it then easy to…

Because this isn't inherently a technological problem, it's a loneliness and emotional vulnerability problem.

I guarantee you that scammers will find ways to convince their victims regardless of photos being verified or not.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Because sex sells. Where you not aware of this by now? This has been proven to death by now. And by sex I don't mean the copulation act, but just seeing very handsome and attractive people that trigger your primal mating desires, works in advertising when trying to convince people to buy something from you or give you something (a product, a service, an idea, their time, their money, their attention, their assistance…

There was an academic paper about this recently; we’re aware of “Asian” as a bias but not “physically attractive” and disproportionately favor the more pleasing individuals.

What's the "Asian" bias? That sounds like an US thing.

It it the stereotype that Asians are good at STEM?

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

Lets face it. The "pretty girl profile" strategy works on a wide enough fraction of men that with probability close to 1 you can establish a legit connection to at least a few legit people at the company. Once you get that far, you can start getting recommendations for other people you "might know" and have enough of an "in" to get a glimpse at the entire org chart of the place. From there your a short jump away from…

How is it a "short jump" from being connected to a few people on LinkedIn, to then being added to internal slack channels? It's not impossible, but it seems like quite a leap.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

You mean female recruiters? For some reason, all the female recruiters I know (on Linkedin) are rather attractive. Maybe there is some logic behind it.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I've always got scammers trying to get to me on Twitter. Once, I went down the road a bit to see what would happen. So, so boring. No conversational skill, no chemistry, just whoever happened to be working the shift at the time. I did wonder if the girl in the pictures was associated with the gang somehow, or just a random victim, as in the article.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

> they look more like models than software engineers I worked with someone (she was on the sales team) who looked like a model. Her mom was a model--go figure. So while unlikely, it does happen.

If you work at somewhat prestigious companies, you've probably worked with ex or part time models. Not many people make enough money off of modelling that they won't need another career, but being model material makes everything else in life, such as job interviews, easier.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

> Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

Can I push back against this? It’s toxic as fuck. Being a woman in tech blows. You can’t be pretty or you’re considered incompetent and shallow. You can’t be ugly or you’re treated poorly for that.

It’s a loose-loose.

What does a software engineer look like to you, then?

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

One of my coworker looks like a barbie doll. Also for some reason she looks 30 when she’s mid 40.

She also really, really good at her job.

Her profile on LinkedIn looks like what you describe.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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post #118

I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

> Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit. Can I push back against this? It’s toxic as fuck. Being a woman in tech blows. You can’t be pretty or you’re considered incompetent and shallow. You can’t be ugly or you’re treated poorly for that. It’s a loose-loose. What does a software engineer look like to you, then?

can i push back on that? as a guy, girls texting you randomly on any platform is almost always a bot, scammer, .

i completely agree with you, a software engineer looks like a person who writes software. but that doesn't change the online experience that i have had as a man, which is namely, if a girl texts you, she's not a girl, and she certainly isn't your friend.

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