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Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Considering how good face recognition is these days it would be nice to have legislation in place that you have to give explicit consent to any website in order to use your image. Govt can crawl the web and block websites from the countries ISP that don't comply. Hard to see another automated solution for this problem

Indeed, that would surely stop Nigerian thiefs from using your photos. Impervious strategy.

Use them for what?

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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You can always tell them, however most are told from youth that they should always marry upwards. Your experience may vary.

The victim in Tindler Swindler was not trying to marry, upwards or otherwise. She was just... tindlering. And got this charming man with "Let's fly for a weekend in Paris on my private jet". I do not see any possibility to resist. Yes, "It's too good to be true". But the jet was real...

The bridges being sold are real, too. The scam only works if they build some kind of relationship, whether it ends in marriage or just in a committed relationship (moving in together etc) is irrelevant.

If she was "just tindlering" (I really like the English language for the ability to verbify everything), it wouldn't have, because she's not taking out loans for each guy from tinder she spends an evening or a night with.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Not really, the title is usually something like a tech consultant with completely BS educational and career experience. But I do agree it could be red team but they are annoying as hell. Actually lemme show you one: https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/in/ellie-fang-411900257

That headshot is of a Taiwanese actress. You'd think they'd at least use a more believable headshot. https://ent.ltn.com.tw/news/breakingnews/2357875

Low effort pig butchering scams for lonely workaholics..

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Whoa there buddy. Your statement is both downright offensive and untrue. 1. Great recruiters work long hours around others’ schedules 2. Recruiters deal with tons of rejection that most developers don’t have the stomach for 3. Female recruiters are often overworked, harassed, mansplained to and disrespected in our industry as they deal with fragile male egos, imposter syndrome, interview anxiety, etc To build a real…

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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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My mind is blown. Even when the ruse is revealed, many victims are unwilling to let go. The truth triggers an emotional whiplash—the promise of a soulmate, a new, fulfilling life, and mutual trust is suddenly lost, leaving the intense feelings of love behind. Once found, the real man in the photos becomes a surrogate for the fantasy. “Some of them would reach out to me and [say], ‘Now that I know what the real person…

I have behaved very strangely myself when heartbroken.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Upsetting that in an article all about photos being used to scam people, there's not a single sample of an offending image! I mean, I think I get why. But still, it's the first thing I want to see when I read a story like this.

Honestly it might be helpful for these guys to have a story about their situation in a relatively large publication. Just send it to people each time it happens. Works without pictures I guess

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Women may take interest in pictures of a well-groomed gay man. But they would absolutely NOT tolerate their partner actually spend more time fussing about his appearance than them. Instant ick. Feminine behaviour.

did you poll all women lol? how do you make such confidently foolish comments ?

Mostly reading about what catty gays and women say about these things.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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My mind is blown. Even when the ruse is revealed, many victims are unwilling to let go. The truth triggers an emotional whiplash—the promise of a soulmate, a new, fulfilling life, and mutual trust is suddenly lost, leaving the intense feelings of love behind. Once found, the real man in the photos becomes a surrogate for the fantasy. “Some of them would reach out to me and [say], ‘Now that I know what the real person…

>My mind is blown.

It shouldn't be surprising that the ~50% of the population that is stereotyped over centuries as having an unhealthy relationship with "being wrong in a relationship" and "not letting things go" makes good on that stereotype frequently enough to be worth an anecdote in a Vice article.

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