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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by 998244353 »

papercrane wrote: post #28
markus_zhang wrote: post #15

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Not really, the title is usually something like a tech consultant with completely BS educational and career experience. But I do agree it could be red team but they are annoying as hell. Actually lemme show you one: https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/in/ellie-fang-411900257

That headshot is of a Taiwanese actress. You'd think they'd at least use a more believable headshot. https://ent.ltn.com.tw/news/breakingnews/2357875

One common explanation to such things is that it is a filter: if a person doesn't notice something like that, there's a good chance they won't become suspicious later either.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by sasattack »

hoseja wrote: post #79
not2b wrote: post #18

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It doesn't surprise me. Especially among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men, because men whether gay or straight tend to be more visually oriented than women and looks matter to the people they want to attract. Of course like any generalization there are many exceptions to this.

Women may take interest in pictures of a well-groomed gay man. But they would absolutely NOT tolerate their partner actually spend more time fussing about his appearance than them. Instant ick. Feminine behaviour.

did you poll all women lol? how do you make such confidently foolish comments ?

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by karmakurtisaani »

ChuckNorris89 wrote: post #75
dijit wrote: post #27

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I have noticed that a lot of tech recruiters are conventionally attractive women.

Because sex sells. Where you not aware of this by now? This has been proven to death by now. And by sex I don't mean the copulation act, but just seeing very handsome and attractive people that trigger your primal mating desires, works in advertising when trying to convince people to buy something from you or give you something (a product, a service, an idea, their time, their money, their attention, their assistance…

A funny observation: I've had the best response rate and relationships with recruiters who are regular looking men. The attractive female recruiters mostly just send a message with the job info, but completely bail when you ask for a salary range and remote work policy. Maybe they get such a large number of replies that they don't need to bother with the ones asking difficult questions.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by Hnrobert42 »

andrewflnr wrote: post #25

So are the scammers already using deepfakes for this, or is that still to come? A video chat is already a pretty obvious thing to do in a long distance relationship, so it will be weird if they can't do it (building an orphanage in Africa is a pretty good excuse, but it won't last forever). If it's possible, they'll definitely want to be able to deepfake video chats.

I think it is hard to generate multiple deepfake images of the same “person”.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by vstm »

whatshisface wrote: post #78
pcthrowaway wrote: post #65

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Soon enough, DALL-E may be able to tweak any face to make it scam-worthy, and GPT will be able to complement it to pluck the heartstrings just so

It would be easier to start from scratch.

Yes making my face look good would be NP-hard

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by iLoveOncall »

jack_pp wrote: post #76
rkagerer wrote: post #42

When I was growing up you never posted your photo online where strangers could see it. Earlier than that, it was also considered proper etiquette to ask before taking someone's photo. There's been a huge culture shift and some of the outcomes are disheartening but quite predictable. ...little recourse other than to continuously report fake profiles across social media platforms If they don't take down your fraudulent…

Considering how good face recognition is these days it would be nice to have legislation in place that you have to give explicit consent to any website in order to use your image. Govt can crawl the web and block websites from the countries ISP that don't comply. Hard to see another automated solution for this problem

Indeed, that would surely stop Nigerian thiefs from using your photos. Impervious strategy.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by ChuckNorris89 »

stevenwoo wrote: post #64
dehrmann wrote: post #36

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> they look more like models than software engineers I worked with someone (she was on the sales team) who looked like a model. Her mom was a model--go figure. So while unlikely, it does happen.

I remember filtering programmer resumes about 20 years ago and one listed modelling as a prior job and her packet included a headshot. We flew her out and interviewed her and she aced the written test and interviews; we made her an offer but she had multiple to choose from and our starting salary was not competitive.

> one listed modelling as a prior job

We had the near opposite experience. We were looking to hire a "Modelling and simulation developer" for Matlab. And some ladies would somehow only see the "modelling experience desired" part and ignore the other technical requirements and flood us with their portfolios of various photo shoots.

I'm sure the hiring guys hated it.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by bearmode »

jack_pp wrote: post #76
rkagerer wrote: post #42

When I was growing up you never posted your photo online where strangers could see it. Earlier than that, it was also considered proper etiquette to ask before taking someone's photo. There's been a huge culture shift and some of the outcomes are disheartening but quite predictable. ...little recourse other than to continuously report fake profiles across social media platforms If they don't take down your fraudulent…

Considering how good face recognition is these days it would be nice to have legislation in place that you have to give explicit consent to any website in order to use your image. Govt can crawl the web and block websites from the countries ISP that don't comply. Hard to see another automated solution for this problem

Congrats, now 90+% of all photographs taken outside are completely unshareable online, and the > century old art of street photography is dead.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by achenet »

lelanthran wrote: post #57
ChrisMarshallNY wrote: post #11

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> But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious Women loved Rock Hudson. I think there are a number of gay women stars that are quite popular with men. Social media is very weird. People can have entire friendships, romances, and work relationships, without meeting the other person. I had a friend whose wife left him for an online relationship. She got to the other state, met the g…

> Best thing that could have happened to him. Yup. IME, the best way for a spouse to leave you is for someone else. When they have someone that they're in a hurry to settle down with, they're unlikely to argue over splitting of assets, or custody of pets, or access to children, because they want the process over as soon as possible. When they are leaving you because they are unhappy with you, then they'll argue over…

no, my Dad and Mom split because Mom found out Dad had been having an affair, had gotten HIV and made a baby with another woman, and they're still fighting over small stuff, literally 19 years later.

Just don't get married, ever.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by achenet »

logicallee wrote: post #66
not2b wrote: post #18

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It doesn't surprise me. Especially among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men, because men whether gay or straight tend to be more visually oriented than women and looks matter to the people they want to attract. Of course like any generalization there are many exceptions to this.

I agree there are many exceptions and we have to be careful about generalizing. It's an interesting explanation. (That gay men pay more attention to their appearance than straight men because they want to be attractive to men rather than women, and men both gay and straight are more visually oriented than women.) This theory would predict that gay women would pay much less attention to their own appearance than strai…

mmm... from what I've seen gay women (i.e. lesbians) tend to have rather noticable appearances - either rather butch/masculine, or somewhat 'freaky'.

There are exceptions, where they just go for "comfy", however.

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