Idk. we just have to assume people are fine even if it is not expressed through their face. There are other indicators for distress, such as tears or literally angry faces.
Ask HN: Do you look angry while you work?
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#152Earlier quoted context omitted.
What is it about if not looking angry?
looking unapproachable while having no facial expressions. Some people just look like assholes, it doesn't imply they look angry.
> Some people just look like assholes
Something I wonder about is how much of an effect movies and TV have had on what we generally consider to be mean-looking or friendly-looking traits.
I don’t know which way the cause-and-effect goes though. Do we instinctively as humans think that people who look a certain way give off an “evil” vibe, and that’s why Hollywood chooses actors with those faces? Or have they trained us that certain faces are “evil” because they’re always typecast as bad guys?
One random example: when I first saw Kylo Ren in the recent Star Wars trilogy, my first thought was… I bet he’s gonna turn good. His face is too friendly. If he were bad to the core they would’ve picked an evil-looking guy.
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#153I've been told, by a coworker no less, that I have RBF (resting bitch face).
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#154no. I am angry while I work.
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#155My SO of 7 years postponed approaching me for months because she thought that I am a generally angry person.
Many other people have reported that I appear "unapproachable" when I am working, although the opposite is true. I am one of the most friendly, helpful, and jolly person that I know.
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#156Earlier quoted context omitted.
looking unapproachable while having no facial expressions. Some people just look like assholes, it doesn't imply they look angry.
> Some people just look like assholes Something I wonder about is how much of an effect movies and TV have had on what we generally consider to be mean-looking or friendly-looking traits. I don’t know which way the cause-and-effect goes though. Do we instinctively as humans think that people who look a certain way give off an “evil” vibe, and that’s why Hollywood chooses actors with those faces? Or have they trained…
Same thing with people who have a scarred face or have a British accent (for US audiences anyway). You almost always know they're going to turn out to be the bad guy.
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#157I can see myself without moving by changing focus. (Recently broke a screen and got a glossy as replacement and use a dark theme.) Look neutral but need to avoid scrunching between the eyes.
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#158Learned this tip from George Costanza: "I always look annoyed. Yeah, when you look annoyed all the time, people think that you're busy"
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#159One thing that I remember is a tough consulting project where I travelled every week to a customer site (note: long long ago).
However, I did pick up some light morning yoga since my schedule was so packed I couldn't go to a class but I needed some additional stress relief.
I noticed that after I started doing that (part of the yoga video involved actively relaxing your face), I tended to adopt that relaxed face a lot more. It was serene, welcoming - compared to my very intense normal visage given the stress levels.
Suddenly people not only reacted to me in a much more honest and direct way which made things easier. I then decided to ramp it up and use that face explicitly on calls and meetings - where I was received very very well (even conference calls without video). I gained visibility with the client higher-ups. In fact, I could probably still be working for them if I wanted to (ended contract as my first kid was on the way - too much travel).
It's not a lot of time investment and a great learning lesson.
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#160I've been told I look scary walking around the office. I realize I walk quickly and determined on my way between meetings. Apparently it made me look aggressive and scary.