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If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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Re: If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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I disagree, they are just not necessarily associated. Less intelligent people have problems too. Children constantly throw tantrums, for instance. I do agree that overthinking and the high neuroticism that usually comes with intelligence will lead to an unhappy life usually. Contentment imo requires understanding your insignificance in the universe and having strong values to drive your behavior. Usually that means n…

Interesting counterexample. I would argue that throwing tantrums when distressed — instead of bottling up anger, frustration, and disappointment — actually enables children to embrace happiness more easily than we do during the non-tantrum moments. We learn to suppress and not feel our difficult emotions, but unfortunately we can’t selectively numb just the hard feelings. I’m not claiming our society should be filled…

I totally agree with that. People would be well-served to deal with their inner emotional world directly instead of pushing it away.

At the same time, they do have a lot of inner tormoil even though they have next to no responsibilities or knowledge. They face the same thing everyone else does, the world changing in the face of their expectations or just not meeting them.

There are better examples of the problems uneducated people face and a lot of data to back up their issues with money, relationships, and so on.

Re: If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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We haven't established that intelligence should imply happiness. We haven't even established that intelligence should imply the desire to be happy. If intelligence enables a person to identify problems, and problems make a person unhappy, then an intelligent person will have at least one factor that tends to increase unhappiness.

Re: If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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Maybe this is too simplistic, but pretty much no one is happy. Everyone has problems, even if those problems seem minor from another's viewpoint. I'm not sure smart/stupid has much to do with it.

I was very unhappy in my 20's, but now I'm pretty happy in my 30's. I'd say it's usually an ego problem. And smarter people tend to have bigger egos. I think that's why smart people are generally regarded as unhappy. Of course there are other things that contribute to happiness, like circumstances.

Another thing I've been thinking lately is that there seems to be a large group of people who don't seem to want to be happy, as if they don't even like happiness.

Re: If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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The smarter you are, the more unhappy and lonely you will be. Been known for millenia; doesn't have to stay this way. edit/ sorry got shadow banned over this post. cant reply to anyone.

I think intelligence and happiness are independent and both fall on a spectrum for people. Intelligent people are probably just more likely to see that as the root of their unhappiness - "it must be because I'm so smart and understand the world better than other people" where less intelligent people would blame something else. In reality I think it's more "I just don't have habits of viewing the world positively" for everyone

Re: If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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Buddhism principles do not lock you in their system if all you want is to understand how happiness works and why you are not happy.

But people just ignore it anyway. Which is precisely the problem. Why address things when you can either ignore them or you can fight against yourself, but in both scenarios you always go round and round in the same loop.

In the current global consciousness, happiness is attributed to material possessions, which ironically is also what makes you unhappy.

Re: If you’re so smart, how come you’re not happy?

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the more 'actionable' Naval-ism that helps me is

"If you can't be happy with a coffee, you won't be happy with a yacht."

somehow this makes me naturally gauge if I'm enjoying the present as a question "am I enjoying this coffee / new fountain pen / crunchy leaves?" and I actually feel the happiness bubble up in sensory focus.

Doesn't last long yet works for me.

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