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Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities
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#52Gratitude certainly unlocks more opportunities. The neat thing about gratitude is that if you practice it you find inner peace and don’t need the opportunities to be happy.
I've gotten in the habit of reflecting on gratitude whenever I'm sad or in a bad mood. It really changes things around for me personally. You don't have to force yourself, just thinking about gratitude in general is useful.
“My Uncle Alex, who is up in Heaven now, one of the things he found objectionable about human beings was that they so rarely noticed it when times were sweet. We could be drinking lemonade in the shade of an apple tree in the summertime, and Uncle Alex would interrupt the conversation to say, "If this isn't nice, what is?"
So I hope that you will do the same for the rest of your lives. When things are going sweetly and peacefully, please pause a moment, and then say out loud, "If this isn't nice, what is?”
-- Kurt Vonnegut
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I like to call this "toxic positivity". Forced cheeriness about the grind, the hustle, we're all in this together, etc. Better than negativity, but not by much.
Like many other tools utilised by powerful leaders/CEOs, mandatory positively, too, is a means to an end. An excolleague of mine was a "happiness engineer" at a FAANG-esque firm, we discussed the pros and cons of ensuring positive communication is demonstrated in all echelons of the business. We were delighted knowing that although discontent existed in some engineers, the mandatory happiness messaging prevented them…
I assume this must be a joke since it sounds like something straight out of a dystopic novel. But then again you also talk about doing some "reputation management work with the defense sector" in an older comment, so I'm genuinely wondering if you're serious.
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I like to call this "toxic positivity". Forced cheeriness about the grind, the hustle, we're all in this together, etc. Better than negativity, but not by much.
I went to Disneyland yesterday and I felt that way every time a staff member stopped to wave at us. Dystopian.
It’s like the uncanny valley.
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#55Earlier quoted context omitted.
I like to call this "toxic positivity". Forced cheeriness about the grind, the hustle, we're all in this together, etc. Better than negativity, but not by much.
I'm not sure it's better than negativity to be honest. Honest negativity is at least honest.
I've been on projects where I'm genuinely more pessimistic and negative than everyone else. I still think if it's not a project that I want to change or own or feel strongly against, it's my duty to not show that negativity. I won't pretend enthusiasm but I will at least fake positivity enough to try to make sure I don't infect the people around me if they are enthusiastic
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#56Gratitude = Weapon? Some real 1984 type shit
Sure, you can weaponize anything.
But the word weapon here is a much tamer metaphor meaning tool you pick up to achieve victory: resources (usually capital: money, social, cultural etc), many times in an adversarial environment (youll always get some pushback no matter what you're doing).
"Battle" metaphors are common.
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#57Transcribed from @mhdksafa:
"I noticed that our lovely janitor gets treated like an outcast, so I made sure to drink my coffee with him daily in front of the gate. Today I was in a hurry to get to my office, so he came to my office with a cup of coffee and awkwardly goes "Thank you for being my friend."
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There's definitely a counter-culture of people in America who believe that being pleasant or warm is to lose some sort of dignity; that being nice is subordinate conformist behavior. Instead they proudly wear surliness and aloofness to show that they will not bend to norms or hierarchy. The result is that they typically do not get chosen for more interesting projects, are passed over for promotions, and interview poo…
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#59Yeah, this is what the trust fund kids I know keep telling me. I don't get why it works for them and not for me!
Maybe you're just not grateful enough? /s
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#60Gratitude, kindness, and explicit acknowledgement of appreciation for others really does go a long way. However, I feel like I've been meeting more people in the workplace who read articles like this and implement it in a robotic, forced manner. Like they're using it as a tool to get what they want out of others, as opposed to a genuine expression of how they feel. Genuine gratitude goes much further than just going…
There's no way around the fact that instrumental kindness, gratitude and appreciation aren't really kindness, gratitude and appreciation.