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Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by juliusgeo »

mediaman wrote: post #26
FollowingTheDao wrote: post #19

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There's definitely a counter-culture of people in America who believe that being pleasant or warm is to lose some sort of dignity; that being nice is subordinate conformist behavior. Instead they proudly wear surliness and aloofness to show that they will not bend to norms or hierarchy. The result is that they typically do not get chosen for more interesting projects, are passed over for promotions, and interview poo…

This is a well thought out reply, and one that rings true with my experience.

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by galaxyLogic »

netsharc wrote: post #9
PragmaticPulp wrote: post #5

Gratitude, kindness, and explicit acknowledgement of appreciation for others really does go a long way. However, I feel like I've been meeting more people in the workplace who read articles like this and implement it in a robotic, forced manner. Like they're using it as a tool to get what they want out of others, as opposed to a genuine expression of how they feel. Genuine gratitude goes much further than just going…

Reminds me of a movie adaptation of "A Brave New World" where everyone greets each other with "Hey how are you I'm great thank you".

When I moved to US I was at first startled when neighbors and others asked me "How do you do?" while walking past me on the side-walk. Of course it just meant the same as "hello". But I wasn't expecting it. So I started thinking how do I do? And what should I tell them about that?

By the time I had come up with some kind of answer they had already passed me by. I didn't realize I was supposed to answer by asking the same question from them, or some slight variation thereof.

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by Jill_the_Pill »

PragmaticPulp wrote: post #5

Gratitude, kindness, and explicit acknowledgement of appreciation for others really does go a long way. However, I feel like I've been meeting more people in the workplace who read articles like this and implement it in a robotic, forced manner. Like they're using it as a tool to get what they want out of others, as opposed to a genuine expression of how they feel. Genuine gratitude goes much further than just going…

My students have lately taken to thanking me for my time and help every time we speak. It's sort of sweet, but not if some coach told them to do it to attract opportunities. It's getting to where I silently add "Mrs. Cleaver" to every effusive thank-you.

(That is an old-folks joke; you'll just have to duck-duck it.)

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by PradeetPatel »

ianmcgowan wrote: post #10
PragmaticPulp wrote: post #5

Gratitude, kindness, and explicit acknowledgement of appreciation for others really does go a long way. However, I feel like I've been meeting more people in the workplace who read articles like this and implement it in a robotic, forced manner. Like they're using it as a tool to get what they want out of others, as opposed to a genuine expression of how they feel. Genuine gratitude goes much further than just going…

I like to call this "toxic positivity". Forced cheeriness about the grind, the hustle, we're all in this together, etc. Better than negativity, but not by much.

Like many other tools utilised by powerful leaders/CEOs, mandatory positively, too, is a means to an end.

An excolleague of mine was a "happiness engineer" at a FAANG-esque firm, we discussed the pros and cons of ensuring positive communication is demonstrated in all echelons of the business. We were delighted knowing that although discontent existed in some engineers, the mandatory happiness messaging prevented them from gaining any real traction and material support from the rest of the business, since that goes against the business culture.

Thus, the problematic engineers could be dealt with and removed with minimal impact on the morale and reputation of the company.

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by [deleted] »

dinosaurdynasty wrote: post #16
ianmcgowan wrote: post #10

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I like to call this "toxic positivity". Forced cheeriness about the grind, the hustle, we're all in this together, etc. Better than negativity, but not by much.

I'm not sure it's better than negativity to be honest. Honest negativity is at least honest.

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Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by PradeetPatel »

hosolmaz wrote: post #25

Gratitude = Weapon? Some real 1984 type shit

Weapon does not automatically imply killing and being on the offense.

The existence of weapons can also be used to defend the helpless and conduct peacekeeping actions.

It is important to keep an open mind about this.

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by FredPret »

mediaman wrote: post #26
FollowingTheDao wrote: post #19

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Quoted post unavailable.

There's definitely a counter-culture of people in America who believe that being pleasant or warm is to lose some sort of dignity; that being nice is subordinate conformist behavior. Instead they proudly wear surliness and aloofness to show that they will not bend to norms or hierarchy. The result is that they typically do not get chosen for more interesting projects, are passed over for promotions, and interview poo…

Whoah. What an absolutely spot-on deacription. It’s nice to be nice!

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by technoooooost »

PradeetPatel wrote: post #36
hosolmaz wrote: post #25

Gratitude = Weapon? Some real 1984 type shit

Weapon does not automatically imply killing and being on the offense. The existence of weapons can also be used to defend the helpless and conduct peacekeeping actions. It is important to keep an open mind about this.

I sometimes use my dick as a weapon, but only in defensive situations.

Re: Gratitude is a secret weapon for attracting more opportunities

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Post by euvitudo »

galaxyLogic wrote: post #32
netsharc wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Reminds me of a movie adaptation of "A Brave New World" where everyone greets each other with "Hey how are you I'm great thank you".

When I moved to US I was at first startled when neighbors and others asked me "How do you do?" while walking past me on the side-walk. Of course it just meant the same as "hello". But I wasn't expecting it. So I started thinking how do I do? And what should I tell them about that? By the time I had come up with some kind of answer they had already passed me by. I didn't realize I was supposed to answer by asking the…

Like in Brazil. “Tudo bem?” “Tudo bem!”

I have a Peruvian friend who had a similar experience. He would relate that when you would ask someone in his country how they’re doing, it was expected that that would be the beginning of a (possibly brief, but probably not so brief) discussion.

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