I'm sure a simple tool would improve the environment issue you mentioned. It's crazy to me how ` https://asdf-vm.com ` is still not that well known, Should help to fix lots of dependency issue and it should be a must install for all developers.
Treat brew like apt/dpkg: install programs you're going to directly use with it and basically always want at a recent—or, at least, not any particular—version, not dev dependencies. I know some people do that anyway on major Linux distros but that's also doing it wrong for very similar reasons, unless—maybe unless, there are still good reasons not to—your only deployment target is the exact same version of the Linux distro you have on your workstation.
Use asdf, language-specific package managers, various version managers (rvm, nvm, whatever), docker, vendor things in, all that kind of stuff, for dev dependencies. Same as you should do on most Linux distros (with some exceptions that are made so they play nice with dev dependencies, like Nix).