You and your partner are on the same team, even when it feels otherwise.
Ask HN: I will become a father tomorrow, what advice could you share with me?
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#102Don't worry when the kid comes out with no recognition and behavior on par with a lizard only eating, sleeping and crapping, doing none of those things on an adult time scale leaving you exhausted. Some time around 3 months recognition, smiles, laughs and awesome commences and around six months the kid may even be sleeping on a human timescale..
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#103Earlier quoted context omitted.
I agree and to expand on some of these: 3) Definitely; newborns eat, sleep, and poop. Mostly sleep. Take advantage of this. Sleep when they sleep, run errands, go out to eat, etc. You may develop an unjustified feeling that "I'm a great parent, look at how satisfied my kid is - they so rarely cry! What are all these other parents whining about?" Nature will punish you for your arrogance. 4) Your experience can also v…
What is your favorite sleep training strategy?
We followed the book The Contented Little Baby Book for our kids. Others recommended to us and sleep has never been a problem after a few months old.
Kids thrive with structure but it takes discipline to maintain consistency.
It’s not magic, in a nutshell it just makes sure your kids have a very reliable routine and they are never super tired or super hungry.
Goodness springs from there.
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#104When your kids hit toddler age...
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#106Congratulation. Some advice:
* The first 18 years are hard, but the first week is brutal. It's not like in the movies, but the good new is that the first week lasts only a week.
* When the baby cries, try the most common causes. Diaper, milk, hugs, tummy ache. Make a mental checklist and follow it at least twice.
* The worst is tummy ache during the first few days. The nurses in the hospital can make some tummy massage to make the baby release the farts and stop the tummy ache. Try to learn it. If it's 3am and the baby is crying, ask the nurses.
* Try to sleep as much as you can while the baby sleep.
* Your wife will be also very tired. Try to be patient, and she should try to be patient. Can you take a few days if at work? [Like a week] It varies in each country. Can your parents or your in laws help? [sometimes it's a curse, sometimes it's one additional hour of sleep.]
* The advice about how the baby must sleep are a mix of real advice and snake oils and fads. Try to find a pediatrician that is good and sensible.
* And this is the end of the advice for the first week. Next 18 are easier.
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#107Take lots of video. It’s easy to snap a pic but you’ll always go back to the videos.
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#108The first six months are known as an external pregnancy. Keep the environment quiet, don't take the baby away from home too long, minimise visitors. Do this and you'll avoid colic. Also, don't rock the baby, you'll never stop.
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#109Many people gave you advice and said loss of your personal life.
Invite your kids into your life. I like video games so I offer to play them with my son. I like movies so I find ones we can watch together. I like martial arts so when he’s old enough I’ll offer to do Jui Jitsu.
Kids are an amazing opportunity to teach and love
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#110Take lots of video. It’s easy to snap a pic but you’ll always go back to the videos.
Take lots of pictures -- you will never look at the video.
Take the "same" picture each month for the first couple of years. We had our daughter propped up on the couch next to a teddy bear. Stringing the pictures together showed her growth in a beautiful way.
Also, make sure that you don't hold them in order to put them to sleep. Wait until they are relaxed and then put them down in their bed/crib/cot. You want them to be able to put themselves to sleep without you.
Also, don't keep the house quiet when the baby is asleep / going to sleep. This will only condition them to be able to only sleep in the quiet.