1. Mother smells tasty.
Father is not.
To give the mother at least four hours of uninterrupted sleep, she should sleep in a separate room, while father sleeps is nearby. (Received this advice from a nurse with first daughter. Worked over twenty years on all three.)
2. postpartum depression is a thing. Usually I start to keep an eye three to six month after.
3. Father testosterone can go lower. Will be back to normal six month to a year later.
4. First two months, when baby remains at the same spot where you leave it, are the best, don't miss them.
Ask HN: I will become a father tomorrow, what advice could you share with me?
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Re: Ask HN: I will become a father tomorrow, what advice could you share with me?
#92Here's some advice I gave my brother. (My daughter was 15 months old, and I was thinking about what advice I wish I'd been given before she was born) 1) Remember at all times that no matter how tired you are, your partner is almost certainly much more tired. Basically, give her a free pass for the first few months, if not longer. (The hormonal changes a few days in are no fun either) 2) There is no point comforting a…
I agree and to expand on some of these: 3) Definitely; newborns eat, sleep, and poop. Mostly sleep. Take advantage of this. Sleep when they sleep, run errands, go out to eat, etc. You may develop an unjustified feeling that "I'm a great parent, look at how satisfied my kid is - they so rarely cry! What are all these other parents whining about?" Nature will punish you for your arrogance. 4) Your experience can also v…
I will say for point number 8: definitely buy anything that saves you time. If you don’t have enough bottles so you need to hand wash them, just buy more so you can always use the dishwasher. Time is your most precious resource when you have a baby.
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#94Watch out for Post Partum Depression it is not fake it can very real
I concur with AndrewDucker below
YOU BOTH CREATED THIS NEW LIFE !
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#95Don't circumcise (genital mutilate) your kid if he's a boy.
Notice that the single bit of medical advice in this thread - among the tens of medical decisions you'll have to make and literally thousands of decisions you hope to not need to make - relates to religious aspects. And I'm sure that the guy who posted it was well-meaning, without a hint of religious hate in his blood. This is a terrific example of the "useful idiot" phenomenon. Those who hate any group - be it Jews…
It's great that you want to uphold a religious tradition that is important to your family, but that is not the case for the majority of people subjected to circumcision. Most are not Jewish and may not even be religious.
Re: Ask HN: I will become a father tomorrow, what advice could you share with me?
#96Here's some advice I gave my brother. (My daughter was 15 months old, and I was thinking about what advice I wish I'd been given before she was born) 1) Remember at all times that no matter how tired you are, your partner is almost certainly much more tired. Basically, give her a free pass for the first few months, if not longer. (The hormonal changes a few days in are no fun either) 2) There is no point comforting a…
I agree and to expand on some of these: 3) Definitely; newborns eat, sleep, and poop. Mostly sleep. Take advantage of this. Sleep when they sleep, run errands, go out to eat, etc. You may develop an unjustified feeling that "I'm a great parent, look at how satisfied my kid is - they so rarely cry! What are all these other parents whining about?" Nature will punish you for your arrogance. 4) Your experience can also v…
What is your favorite sleep training strategy?
Re: Ask HN: I will become a father tomorrow, what advice could you share with me?
#97Don't circumcise (genital mutilate) your kid if he's a boy.
Notice that the single bit of medical advice in this thread - among the tens of medical decisions you'll have to make and literally thousands of decisions you hope to not need to make - relates to religious aspects. And I'm sure that the guy who posted it was well-meaning, without a hint of religious hate in his blood. This is a terrific example of the "useful idiot" phenomenon. Those who hate any group - be it Jews…
Nobody I have ever met is against circumcision because it is a common practice amongst Jews. Everyone I know, including myself, is against it because it is a wholly unnecessary and irreversible procedure forced on a child before the child has the capacity to consent or object to the act. I assume you would be against the Islamic practice of female genital mutilation by cutting off a helpless child’s clitoris, despite the practitioners insistence that it is a hallmark of their culture, because it is barbaric. I just apply that same level of reasonableness to the male organ. And the number of centuries a people have been doing something has no bearing on the quality of the practice.
Edit, to add: I did not intend to imply that female genital mutilation was prevalent in Islam, only that it is done and justified amongst Muslims at a not-insignificant rate.
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#98In the hospital after my son was born, my wife and I were coached on breast feeding by the staff. The coaching was overall helpful; however, one of the recommendations was to avoid pacifiers. We endured two nights of crying in the hospital and a few more at home before giving in to the pacifier. It was a game changer, we slept well after that.
Advice will come from people with beliefs that may differ from your own. Additionally, what works for some may not work for others.
Here’s my advice. If your baby is crying and you’re not sleeping, make a change.
P.S. Before trying the pacifier, we ruled out hunger as the cause for crying by supplementing with formula.
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#99Don't sweat the small stuff.
It's pretty much all small stuff.
Oh! And get a notebook and write down every funny thing they say or do. These will never, EVER get old, but they do fade with time, so capture them fresh.
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#100Here's some advice I gave my brother. (My daughter was 15 months old, and I was thinking about what advice I wish I'd been given before she was born) 1) Remember at all times that no matter how tired you are, your partner is almost certainly much more tired. Basically, give her a free pass for the first few months, if not longer. (The hormonal changes a few days in are no fun either) 2) There is no point comforting a…
Regarding 2) - there is always a point to comforting a baby. Just don't fret if it doensn't seem to be working.