> My question is: did I just kinda hit the limit of my IQ / abstract thinking skills? Do other people smarter than me think all this makes sense on an intuitive level?
I honestly don't think so. I was like that at one point, too, and "quit" math. Got a job and spent a few years programming full-time. I then went back to college, and lo and behold, I was required to do math for the courses I was interested in. I then had a couple of teachers who really made us grind, like, all the even-number problems in each chapter.
One teacher gave what seemed to be impossibly long exams; he took pride in people dropping his course. After the first exam, I got an okay score, but he put a note on the exam and I chatted with him after class. He was like, "your handwriting sucks on the last half of the exam, you should practice the material more so you don't feel so rushed." So, on the following exam, I literally did speed drills on the practice exam until I could knock it dead in an hour. Took 4 tries, if I recall correctly.
Eventually, I was able to "see" through the symbols. It took hundreds, perhaps thousands, of hours of dedicated practice. It wasn't easy. I was enraged, distraught, I was brought to tears, but I kept at it. I used to tell myself that I was too stupid to do math. In retrospect, I wasn't motivated enough to do math. I found that it's hard, perhaps incredibly hard, but not impossible. Though it wasn't my goal to begin with, I eventually got a PhD in math.