Ask HN: Advice that changed your life?

Not really an advice, but just a phrase: “Can you show me something you have done?”. My brother was introducing me as a developer for a project he was responsible and the supervisor wanted to meet me first. I was prattling about all the stuff I know about and I was real proud about it. He interrupt me with this. That’s when I realise all the things you know don’t really matter to people if you can’t actually solve their problems and they aren’t confident that you can. I switched my methods after that. And instead of pursuing knowledge for its own sake, I make sure, I actually practice and build thibgs instead of just be satisfied with “I know this”. 2 years later, I started making money on gigs and contracts as a programmer.

> You must balance enjoying your time now with investing in yourself and your future.

That is, to me, one of the most difficult things to apply in life, and I feel like the rest of your post doesn't exactly provide an answer on how to achieve this. There are so many things that I want to do in life but that I cannot afford to do now, and which I always postpone to later. And it feels like I'll let a great deal of things unachieved because I'm already too busy on things that are consuming my time right now.

The same applies to budget. I try to save as much money as possible for the future, and thus I restrain myself from doing things that I may consider too expensive for what they are worth, or choose not to do/purchase things which I do not consider essential as much as possible. I think I managed to do quite well up to this point (I'm 22 and have 20K in savings, starting from barely zero), but I'm still questioning on the utility of doing all of this. Even if I lost all my sources of revenue tomorrow, I wouldn't survive for a very long time with my savings. And if I wanted to launch some business in the near future, I doubt such an amount of money would take me very far.

It's easier to get forgiveness than permission

The things that annoy you the most about your partner will be the same things that you will miss the most when they are gone.

I try and reflect on this advice when I am struggling to communicate with my wife. Having been divorced once I feel that a positive living relationship is always (well, usually maybe) within our own control.

With the crank in the position closest to the front tyre (horizontal and forward), put your allen key in the socket while aimed at 12 o'clock (ie, upward) and rotate toward the rear of the bike.

The rule is basically: rotate against the direction of the crank's rotation to undo.