Ask HN: Advice that changed your life? • Hacker News Board

Re: Ask HN: Advice that changed your life?

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Post by greendestiny_re » Sat, Oct 29, 2022, 10:27 AM UTC

"Build deep personal and professional relationships."

Re: Ask HN: Advice that changed your life?

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Post by mywacaday » Sat, Oct 29, 2022, 10:28 AM UTC

Does advice I didn't take count, I was in my first year of college and living with a family that took in students. I went for a pint with the Dad who would have been in his early 40s and he told me start your pension now, even if it's only €10 a week. Really wish I took his advice. That was in the mis 90s.

Re: Ask HN: Advice that changed your life?

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Post by NayamAmarshe » Sat, Oct 29, 2022, 10:28 AM UTC

gampleman wrote: post #29

There’s a chapter on the mind in the book Discourses and Sayings by Abba Dorotheus. I suppose it can be summarised as “stop lying to yourself”. There’s some subtlety to what this means. For me a big part of that is not living in my imagination. I used to have lots of imaginary conversations with people, predicting what they would say in those situations. This is dangerous since you end up building mental models based…

"I'm in this comment and I don't like it."

This one is really hard to combat. The overthinking brain imagines every scenario ever, really hard to tune the noise down. I've gotten better at it lately but it's still difficult sometimes.

Re: Ask HN: Advice that changed your life?

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Post by NayamAmarshe » Sat, Oct 29, 2022, 10:30 AM UTC

loonster wrote: post #30

"The answer is always no unless you ask."

This is so true. Sometimes all it takes to make a thing happen is ask, experienced it a lot of times.

Re: Ask HN: Advice that changed your life?

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Post by plasticchris » Sat, Oct 29, 2022, 10:30 AM UTC

JackOfCrows wrote: post #7

Most people will use time to save money. However, your time on earth is limited unless the Silicon Valley weirdos happen to be right. Money is infinite in that you can earn more or get a second job or get a better paying job or whatever. (Obviously only to a point but stay with me). Also: your time does have value or it should since it is limited. What would you pay for an hour of your life "back"? Or an hour to do w…

I went back to changing my own oil when I realized it took a lot more time to go there and wait for them to change it vs doing it myself in less time than it would take to drive to the oil change place. And I know I it is done right.

Same with more important stuff like brakes. It does take some knowledge but I’m more motivated to get it right than any given pro.