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An ode to that “coffee friend”

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Re: An ode to that “coffee friend”

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I like this. coffee is something like a hobby and a shared experience and can pull together even really different people.

But if you know someone who is into a very technical hobby, it might be hard to give them a gift, or have a lengthy conversation.

I knew a friend who was really into ranch dressing. Every time we went to eat, we knew what he would order, or could help him order. silly thing that enhanced the relationship.

maybe we should all come up with hobbies or interests like this, to help break the ice with others and make ourselves more approachable.

Re: An ode to that “coffee friend”

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> I buy them a nice bag of beans as a souvenir.

Buy them good beans, tho! Otherwise they will just be used to season their new grinder burrs.

If someone is into coffee, they will want great specialty beans. There are a lot of awesome specialty shops, but rare you will see them at the supermarket.

Re: An ode to that “coffee friend”

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I do the exact opposite.

Buying a gift for an expert when you are not an expert is always going to lead to disappointment, no matter how well they hide it.

I buy gifts only from areas that I am an expert in, and I hope my friends may not be as enthusiastic about the area as I am, but at least we both know I got them the best for them.

Re: An ode to that “coffee friend”

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post #7

I do the exact opposite. Buying a gift for an expert when you are not an expert is always going to lead to disappointment, no matter how well they hide it. I buy gifts only from areas that I am an expert in, and I hope my friends may not be as enthusiastic about the area as I am, but at least we both know I got them the best for them.

It’s not the value of the gift, it’s the thoughtfulness. “I know you like X, and I thought about you” is a very different sentiment than “Let me gift you with my expertise.”

The economists I’ve talked to say if you’re maximizing Utility then give cash.

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