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This is free software. It is legitimate to consider convenience for the maintainers. If they don't want to maintain two symlinks then they are empowered to make that call. If anyone thinks it is a big enough problem that they want to fork the software they can, or the distros can maintain their own symlinks. But I think in this case the simple answer is if the maintainer doesn't want it in the source tarball then it…
I don't know when society in general just said "Fuck It" to the idea of stewardship; but we now have it ingrained that people in positions of trust and power (whether volunteered, elected or appointed) are not morally or ethically beholden or responsible to the communities they have taken it upon themselves to represent. At least we used to pay lip service to that ideal.
Are the stewards being provided fair compensation? How do we even talk about what is fair compensation when non-monetary compensation has become difficult to even discuss (often due to past instances being extreme disproportionate or of a form that is no longer tolerable).
The simplest way to put it is that if you can't find a steward you aren't paying enough and trying to use appeals to morals or ethics to get people to accept lower pay no longer holds as much weight when being moral or ethical no longer provides the same level of non-monetary benefits.