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30 years in the workforce 2 years starting a new startup 5 years after it was acquired Total burnout... I resigned and am 10 months into a break, it's the best thing I've ever done!
10 months without work? I mean this as a sincere question but…how do you afford to live?
> small hurdles spike my anxiety, my anger flares at the slightest confrontation This has been me for the past few months at FAANG. Basically, behaving completely disrespectfully to my boss. Anywhere else I’d been fired, but I guess if you deliver it’s fine? We had meeting after meeting about how to work better together. I think we both knew I needed a break and I’m taking one. But I would never expect a boss to tell…
This usually comes back to bite you during PIP, layoff and promo decision.
> How do you handle such situations?
These are all signs of burn out.
May I suggest a purely rational, evidence based take? The trap is your belief in a linear relationship between effort and outcome. Working harder and longer produces more productivity, right? That's false. As you say so yourself, your memory goes to shit. It's not just a law of diminishing returns. For coders, past a certain point, exhaustion leads you to start undoing your work. You are into negative productivity. I…
If you have unlimited vacation I highly recommend it.
I wish I was productive, my life is nothing but a series of breaks. How you all are able to enjoy working? How are you so productive?
Armodafinil. It allows me to get into a flow state more easily, concentrate for longer periods of time (and more deeply), do necessary things that aren't exciting without procrastinating, and finish things.
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Armodafinil. It allows me to get into a flow state more easily, concentrate for longer periods of time (and more deeply), do necessary things that aren't exciting without procrastinating, and finish things.
That definitely has helped me, too. But I don't like the fact that I need it.
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The problem is there will always be small tasks and those tasks might actually delay longer more important tasks. At some point you need to prioritize what is most important with your time. If you’re always grinding small tasks to make time for a larger task that too will burn you out.
The point is there are lots of small tasks you can do when you're brain isn't capable of doing focused work. Certain work requires careful thinking and can only be done when you're in top shape to be done effectively. Prioritize that work when you're energetic, etc. Do the small tasks when you're not so you're high quality time get's used well.
So IMO do 2-3 of those and call it a day. You have to be in a work shape tomorrow as well.
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I think it is impossible to understand how much additional stress and anxiety being a parent of small children bring without being in that position. I refer to it as the best kept secret of parenthood. No one tells you this until you are in it.
>I think it is impossible to understand how much additional stress and anxiety being a parent of small children bring without being in that position. I have to disagree and I'm a father. I think it's exactly like in the book "the happiness advantage", some people will see the positive and use it as possibility to grow and to get more productive. On the other hand, People who focus on the negative and didn't learn to…
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I think it is impossible to understand how much additional stress and anxiety being a parent of small children bring without being in that position. I refer to it as the best kept secret of parenthood. No one tells you this until you are in it.
>I think it is impossible to understand how much additional stress and anxiety being a parent of small children bring without being in that position. I have to disagree and I'm a father. I think it's exactly like in the book "the happiness advantage", some people will see the positive and use it as possibility to grow and to get more productive. On the other hand, People who focus on the negative and didn't learn to…
The stress of a genuinely difficult parenting situation doesn't just go away with some superficial pop psych like focusing on the positive. That's such an astonishing claim, it's like telling a drowning person to use positive thinking to solve their problems.
Friends and family tell me I am stupid but I feel pretty happy. By taking a vacation every day instead of every year, I do not 'work in order to live'.
Though on the contrary, it is still nice to disconnect from the internet for 72h sometimes and I should probably do that more often.