Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret? • Hacker News Board

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by ta988 » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 4:51 PM UTC

plodman wrote: post #17

Letting myself get burned-out to the point of considering the s word. Every time I just thought “things will get better, it’s probably just me”. I’ve since switched jobs after a break but I still struggle with focus and attention span. Hoping that improves over time.

Yes it will improve. Just make sure you give yourself time outside of work. You don't need to do fancy things, sometimes just getting food you never had before, go see a building, simple life is what saved me from burnout. It took me almost a year (after a change of job) to start living again fully and break off my self deprecation and focus issues.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by throwaway5959 » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 4:53 PM UTC

I regret going to graduate school for CS. What an utter waste of time, especially graduating non-thesis. I also regret the amount of time I spent thinking about people who don’t think about me. Most people ultimately are just there for a season, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by throwaway5959 » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 4:59 PM UTC

nvarsj wrote: post #123

Letting anxiety control my life for so long. Marrying the wrong person because I didn’t want to be alone. Not going into the game industry. I was too afraid of the horror stories at the time, so ignored my passion.

How’d you get a handle on your anxiety if you don’t mind me asking?

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by tasuki » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 5:32 PM UTC

throwaway2722 wrote: post #458

rchaud wrote: post #416

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You say you have not dated, so your skepticism is perhaps warranted due to lack of real life experience. There is survey data that can prove, or at least strongly point to pretty much any conclusion you want. And yet, bald people are out there dating. As are overweight people and everyone else that doesn't sit squarely inside society's beauty standards. Have they done anything differently?

I think you misunderstand my position. I am not arguing that baldness makes dating impossible, only that it is more difficult. I am now far more concerned with the sexual effects of the anti-baldness drug I took which, again, are likely permanent. Men without working genitals have next to no options - if you are interested I would suggest researching accounts from men with a venous leak, botched circumcisions, microp…

I'm sorry you had to go through this.

> I think you misunderstand my position. I am not arguing that baldness makes dating impossible, only that it is more difficult.

If baldness makes dating more difficult, it is almost imperceptibly so. Being self-conscious about baldness might make dating more difficult. Being bald and ok with it is fine.

IIRC the only thing that really matters and is impossible to change is height. If you're tall enough, you're fine. Also, anecdata: I worked with a "vertically challenged" (his words!) guy and he was dating attractive women (taller than him). He was confident and was able to make fun of his height.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by raffraffraff » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 5:54 PM UTC

jemmyw wrote: post #163

Don't stop doing something you enjoy, thinking there's time to pick it up again later. I played badminton a lot in my teens and loved it. Then I went to uni and didn't continue with it, moved around the world, and every move would casually think "wonder if there's a badminton club around". Now I've finally started playing again and the first thing I did was get an injury because I tried to play like a thin, fit 18 ye…

This hits home. I started playing badminton when I was about 13 at a tiny club in a rural area. I ended up playing against adults most of the time. By the time I was 16 I was completing in the adult League with my club (instead of playing in my age category). I played for a while in uni too, but eventually quit because I moved to an area that didn't have a club. Always thought I'd resume paying. I'm 47 next year, so I've left it almost 30 years.

I regularly run an cycle, and kept my weight/waist the same as my 18 year old self, so that's it: tomorrow I'm going to find a club and join.

Thank you!

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by rookiemistakes » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 5:56 PM UTC

the-golden-one wrote: post #47

rookiemistakes wrote: post #29

Last week, actually. Was a bit careless and inebriated while working on a demo and suddenly I realized I had luksFormatted the luks partition holding the only copy of keys for cryptocurrency worth ~$200k. That was a sizable fraction if my supposed net worth. Either I'm still in denial or I've risen above obsessive materialism as it doesn't affect me too much so far, though. Its just money. Unplugged the drive and hav…

Given the value, I would suggest paying for a professional recovery service.

The thought has struck me (and the reason why I yanked and kept it offline) but no idea how to tell which company is worth approaching...

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by rookiemistakes » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 5:58 PM UTC

cosmodisk wrote: post #65

rookiemistakes wrote: post #29

Last week, actually. Was a bit careless and inebriated while working on a demo and suddenly I realized I had luksFormatted the luks partition holding the only copy of keys for cryptocurrency worth ~$200k. That was a sizable fraction if my supposed net worth. Either I'm still in denial or I've risen above obsessive materialism as it doesn't affect me too much so far, though. Its just money. Unplugged the drive and hav…

Depending on how you did it, the data could still be recoverable.

cryptsetup luksFormat on sdx3 with default parameters over an existing partition with (I think) the same parameters but a different passphrase. Realized my mistake shortly after typing "YES" and I don't think further writes happened since.

Like mentioned in other comment, I'd def shell out a portion of the money to recover the rest but not sure where to start. Given the amount I'm hesitant to do any further operations myself with the drive (Samsung evo SSD) plugged in.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by [deleted] » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 6:37 PM UTC

squintychino wrote: post #484

cryptonector wrote: post #479

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Reminds me of Pink Floyd's Dark Side of the Moon, "and then one day you find ten years have got behind you, no one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun!".

That quote is actually from the song "Time" by Pink Floyd. I used to listen to that several times a year to motivate myself to do more and not let the months and years pass me by.

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Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by cosmodisk » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 6:59 PM UTC

rookiemistakes wrote: post #517

cosmodisk wrote: post #65

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Depending on how you did it, the data could still be recoverable.

cryptsetup luksFormat on sdx3 with default parameters over an existing partition with (I think) the same parameters but a different passphrase. Realized my mistake shortly after typing "YES" and I don't think further writes happened since. Like mentioned in other comment, I'd def shell out a portion of the money to recover the rest but not sure where to start. Given the amount I'm hesitant to do any further operation…

I'm not in a position to advise, but I'd try a few recovery firms- given the context, they should be able to provide realistic estimates on what's possible. Even if it's 10% of whatever is inside if you are successful.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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Post by Toutouxc » Sat, Oct 08, 2022, 7:11 PM UTC

_k7dr wrote: post #397

kludgemaker wrote: post #280

I regret hearing the lies spoken during sex education when I was in fifth grade in 1987. The public school I was forced to attend brought in a sociologist to do the damage. She told us that we had to release our libido energy regularly - either by having sexual relations with another person or by masturbation, and that this was okay and healthy. Self control and abstinence were presented as being unrealistic. This pr…

I have the same problem. In the sex education course I was given we were taught about abstinence and such, and there wasn't anything controversial as I recall. However I asked the counselor giving the lecture if it were possible to get an STD by masturbating. He said "no." For my adolescent brain, that was all the validation I needed to become addicted to this day. Many factors have conspired to keep things this way:…

Are you sure about the ban? I can see all your posts before and including this one (but none after).