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Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
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#472This might sound facetious, but my biggest regret is spending time regretting things. I was socially awkward and tried to overcome it: had fun, had panic attacks, learned some tricks, but still just as socially awkward. Many other flaws of mine I’ve tried to overcome similarly and not really got anywhere. I just don’t care about them now and want to be unapologetically ME as I exist. This attitude has ended up paying…
Recursive regrets can be a thing, and generally are what cause the most misery. Its a bit like being stuck in a ditch and digging it, making it near impossible to exit after a while.
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You would have sold at $100 ;)
If only I would have had the foresight to buy a lottery ticket with the correct winning numbers. Yes, there was Bitcoin, however there are always millions of investment opportunities that may or may not pan out. Most don't.
There's always something called as an Index fund. Which more or less tracks the top companies of a country. Unless you expect your country itself to go down, its generally a good lottery ticket to buy.
I'd say just throw in some pocket change in places where you can afford to lose. You never know as the downside is nearly 0, the upside is in millions.
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#474I dated a girl in college, and we were deeply in love. So much so that we got engaged. The one problem was that her family didn't approve of her dating me because of my race. She had initially been hesitant to introduce me to them, but I had insisted that she do it. When they threatened to disown her if she married me, she said that we should just do it and live our lives together. But I was too much of a coward to f…
You can always contact her again :) if you still care about her, let her know!
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#475“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way.”. Søren Kierkegaard
Marriage is that fruit, which those who never tasted- long for it, and those who taste it- repent it.
- And Indian Saying.
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#476Earlier quoted context omitted.
> as I believed early baldness would negatively affect people’s initial impressions of me I hope you know now, this is a mistaken belief. Also in romantic context.
There is plenty of survey data to show that baldness reduces a man’s attractiveness. The effect size varies with age. Anecdotally, it also appears to have especially dire consequences in modern online dating. However, this effect surely pales in comparison to the effect of the permanent sexual dysfunction finasteride can cause. It is frankly outrageous that regulators in the United States have adopted the drug compan…
I think you should try weight lifting and see if that helps your testosterone levels to get the libido up. I’d suggest the 5x5 program.
I would also not rule out how much mental stress can turn off any body function.
Never give up friend!
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#477My father was a alcoholic, who had long stretches of staying sober before always falling of the wagon again. After he had been on a particularly long bender, which finally caused my mother to divorce him, me and him had a verbal fight where I decided I would not have more to do with him until he would seek the help we knew he needed (and we had been offering him for so long). I'll add that he was a moody drunk, never…
You can't have helped him more. You think you could have, but you might only have butted your head against an immovable wall.
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#478Focused too much on making a living in my teens and 20s instead of college and social life. Never pursued artistic interests seriously because I was just too tired from working and stressing out about bills. Now I’m in my 30s with next to no social life and the realization that I’ve wasted away my time and whatever little talent I have. There’s a “regret” folder sitting in my Google Drive with two half-finished books…
I think I have similar feelings. While studying and in my early 20s I spent a lot of time trying to build a side business (a la Four Hour Work Week) so I could have freedom to spend my life how I wanted instead of working all the time.
My parents were not very well off and I had to work a couple of jobs to put myself through higher education, so I think this is where that came from. The ironic thing was that in that part of my life I had basically no responsibility so could have actually lived my life and don't whatever I wanted, I just didn't have much money.
Now I'm in my 30s, have a family, and have a ton of responsibilities. I'm doing somewhat well financially (money in > money out), but now have no free time to actually do anything, and not enough savings to take an extended break from working.
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#479To everyone in this thread, a piece of advice I didn't initially believe but over many years I have understood more: "everyone loses 10 years to something, somewhere along the line"
Reminds me of Pink Floyd's Dark Side of the Moon, "and then one day you find ten years have got behind you, no one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun!".
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#480Earlier quoted context omitted.
Definitely not too late. 30s are still very young. Whatever your goal is, try to stop having 0% days. You don't need to have 100% days, Just avoid having 0% days. In a few months or a year you'll be surprised at the progress you've made.
100% agree. Had a realization about small steps making a huge difference a few days ago. It was so profound to me that I've written a short essay about it. https://kormosi.com/small-things/
You don't have to 100% agree, just not 0% agree!