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Because Americans regard living in anything other than a detached house as a failure.
How would I let my pets run around in the garden? Where do I put my wood fired pizza oven? How do I teach my kids how to grow potatoes and build things? Where do I put the koi pond? There is perhaps some platonic ideal of an apartment where you can live a similar quality of life to a house. But in the reality that we actually live in currently, living in a house usually has a much better quality of life so it's natur…
My SO and still think back to how great it was to have an apartment with a park next door where we could let our dogs run. They had more space there than our current home.
I've never seen a public wood fired pizza oven but community bbq's were pretty standard at our apartments in the past.
We have a community projects place that gives us the opportunity to do all kinds of woodworking (my personal hobby) without spending tons on equipment. Plus there's always people there more competent that I can learn from. We have a seed-sharing repository in our local library and the ag school has plenty of gardening resources.
I think what you're talking about is certainly possible, but it takes a concerted approach to meet the needs of a community. I tend to think people in the US prefer housing because there is a much more individualistic mindset combined with relative affluence that gives people the option to eschew many community approaches.