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Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
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Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#132Perhaps a more simple regret, but not buying bitcoin when it was at ~8USD. In hindsight it would've been the easiest way to not have to think about money anymore for the rest of my life.
If that is your biggest regret, don't you reckon that you have a very good life so far? (I'm assuming that you live a comfortable lifestyle right now.)
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#133To everyone in this thread, a piece of advice I didn't initially believe but over many years I have understood more: "everyone loses 10 years to something, somewhere along the line"
As someone who doesn’t quite understand/believe it, could you elucidate more on that?
More apt would be: hindsight is a b.
Everyone has a tendency to evaluate the past with today's knowledge and experience. That's a fallacy. You didn't so much "lose" 10 years, it just took 10 years to come to an understanding about a meaningful part of your life. And maybe you really needed all that time to arrive there.
In my book, regret means you've learned something about your past but you're still trying to change the past. Which you can't. What matters is how you're going to leverage your wisdom going forward in a meaningful way.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#134To everyone in this thread, a piece of advice I didn't initially believe but over many years I have understood more: "everyone loses 10 years to something, somewhere along the line"
As someone who doesn’t quite understand/believe it, could you elucidate more on that?
I take it to mean that everyone has a situation that they could have handled better, and it took them quite a few years to really fix the situation. Perhaps it was something that affected them mentally, and they finally overcame it, or perhaps it ended up being a physical or financial hardship.
Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone makes a few big mistakes.
The key is not to beat yourself up over it. Learn from the mistake and do better in the future.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#135To everyone in this thread, a piece of advice I didn't initially believe but over many years I have understood more: "everyone loses 10 years to something, somewhere along the line"
As someone who doesn’t quite understand/believe it, could you elucidate more on that?
It means that if you add up the regrets (for example, staying in a bad job or not doing X for Y years) then it will come up to about 10 years for everyone. Maybe your 10 years are still ahead of you, or perhaps some of them are behind you but you didn't realize that yet as you haven't seen the consequences yet.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#136I cant think of single thing which changed, could significantly change my life, that im aware of and i cannot change now.
bluff? :-)
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#137I would never think about regrets, my own or those of others. While there is always the lure of capitalizing on the knowledge, it's rarely worth it. Thinking about negative things (that is a regret after all) in the past is pointless -- you can't change it and you don't know where your life would be if you 'just made that one change'. Changing your own life based on other people's regrets will yield unpredictable results. Live in the present and think about the future. Avoid regrets. They are a trap.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#138Perhaps a more simple regret, but not buying bitcoin when it was at ~8USD. In hindsight it would've been the easiest way to not have to think about money anymore for the rest of my life.
You would have sold at $100 ;)
This is my personal coping mechanism. If I made $10k in BC I would have sold it all and felt very lucky.
I did find a fractional BC on a thumbnail drive in an EOL software wallet for which I had long ago forgotten the password. So that could have happened too.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#139While at a house party during summer break while in college, my summer-time girlfriend and a girl I had dated in high school started making out and I was so surprised about it that I missed an opportunity for a threesome. I later talked about it with them and they admitted that they were thinking about it and would have done it if I had suggested it. Can't tell you how many times I've regretted not acting that night.
Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?
#140I don't really "believe" in regret.
At each and every point in my life, I was working with the information I had at my disposal, each information having its own "weight" in my mind. Every mistake I've made has brought some information in my mind that wouldn't have been brought otherwise. Fantasies of "changing the past" are seductive, but ultimately pointless.
The only way I could justify having regrets, is reminding yourself of some mistake that should not be repeated in the future. Alas, most regrets I see written by other people are things that will not repeat, e.g. spending your youth doing instead of , not talking to your enough, not investing in before its price went rockets... There's just no point.