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- apply it in other adjacent fields - gain more autonomy and creativity - craft the work-life you want
I recommend reading -- So Good They Can't Ignore you by Cal Newport, read it!
1. Created 1 to 3 goals that I want to accomplish in the next 1, 5, and 10 years. 2. Evaluated all my activities. 3. Eliminated all activities that aren't actively driving me towards those goals.
Once I eliminated superfluous junk from my life, I felt a lot more focused.
I'm in a similar boat and for me the issue with switching activities/hobbies/jobs is that I feel unsatisfied with the lack of results that focused people achieve.
A couple of years ago (I'm 43 now) I found a way to balance focus with curiosity. I made a deal with myself that when I embark on a project, whatever it is, I will finish it. I will permit myself to do something else (if I feel like it) once I'm done with that thing, but I won't let my curiosity prevent me from finishing stuff.
I've found that all projects I embark on only satisfy my curiosity in the first say 30% of the project. After that it's just boring work which I have force myself to do. The interesting thing is that when I'm reaching the end of the project I get excited again. And when I finish, I honestly feel all the effort and grinding has been worth it. Understanding these phases I go through really helps me push through the grinding phase.
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Oh man. Thanks for sharing. This text could be coming from me. I also struggle with myself for not having a clear focus. I am interested in a wide range of topics. I also wanna start my company. But I wonder: Will I ever stick? Will I have the grit and the passion to pursue one topic for the next 5-7 years. What's your thinking on this? Btw, they call us "multipotentialites"...
> Will I have the grit and the passion to pursue one topic for the next 5-7 years. I will say, I was able to get my company off the ground and white labeled it for a much larger company. I ended up hating the product in the end, 10 years later - because I was sole founder and every single thing I had to do myself. I think you will be able to stick with it ( especially when there is no other choice ! ) , but you might…
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It’s a super power once you get hold of it.
How do you get hold of it?
I have impulsive ADHD. It’s been a great tool but also got me into a lot of trouble.
I never thought I could change who I am. I am right but I could become aware of what I am an try to engage my bigger brain rather than the impulsive part.
Once I started investing in knowing me better rather than just allowing me to be on a seemingly uncontrollable train I could see how certain behaviors could be toxic to me and others.
And forgiving myself.
This mostly came through the enlightenment of having a son who has it and dealing with that whilst having ADHD. And that has been my greatest challenge and success.
Meta cognition. We talk with him about it in a way which isn’t blame or ‘you can’t do that!’ and while there is still a lot of support he is thriving.
Happy to chat offline too
Hi there, This might be an off beat chance, but have you had a history of or ever looked into the topic of adult ADHD? Changing several jobs, jumping between hobbies or projects is textbook ADHD, especially if you don't feel like you can get out of it and describe it as a "huge live hurdle". That is the same for me. Got diagnosed at 30 two months ago. If you have a suspicion you might have it, I highly recommend doin…
Actually never crossed my mind it could be a sickness-related. I just thought it as a sort of "too many possibilities saturation" or too quick loss of interest. So I decided to ask like-minded people like you here, at least from the same more or less background. Will make the online test, though...
Go see doctors and therapists, different ones, to get different opinions
Not fitting in our crazy modern world doesn't mean you're "sick"
Hi there, This might be an off beat chance, but have you had a history of or ever looked into the topic of adult ADHD? Changing several jobs, jumping between hobbies or projects is textbook ADHD, especially if you don't feel like you can get out of it and describe it as a "huge live hurdle". That is the same for me. Got diagnosed at 30 two months ago. If you have a suspicion you might have it, I highly recommend doin…
I had same symptoms as above but for me it was not ADHD but bad employers. Even hobbies are stable now.
(1) Range: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/41795733-range
The book describes the advantages that generalists have and how they can get the most of them, and basically says that specialization is somewhat overrated. As a fellow generalist I found it uplifting and encouraging.
(2) Stolen Focus: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/57933306-stolen-focus
This book is all about focus, why it's hard to maintain focus and what you can do to improve it. Candidly it's a bit discouraging, because many of the conclusions are that the problem is environmental and there's not a ton that individuals can do about it. But for me, it's still very reassuring and empowering to recognize the environmental problems around me and know how they are affecting my ability to focus.
I think you'd find reading those to be very helpful and time well-spent :)
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What it’s the period when it becomes a disease as what you describe is basically how humans generally work?
It’s not a disease. It is the way some people are wired. Just like some people are really boring