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Getting good at something takes time. If your first discover what you like, i.e, what motivates you, inspires you, energizes you. Then, getting really good at it will come im time and be tempered by your natural talent.
Perhaps what you could potentially be the best at is not something you even like - and what’s the point in that?
This might be an off beat chance, but have you had a history of or ever looked into the topic of adult ADHD?
Changing several jobs, jumping between hobbies or projects is textbook ADHD, especially if you don't feel like you can get out of it and describe it as a "huge live hurdle".
That is the same for me. Got diagnosed at 30 two months ago.
If you have a suspicion you might have it, I highly recommend doing a quick online test and listening to podcasts around getting an ADHD diagnosis as well as personal tales from people who have it.
Especially the latter were a real eye opener for me and pushed me to get a diagnosis.
The point is, no amount of effort, book reading, motivational speeches or the like will get you out of this pattern.
ADHD is a neurological dysfunction, hence medication is most effective.
Hi there, This might be an off beat chance, but have you had a history of or ever looked into the topic of adult ADHD? Changing several jobs, jumping between hobbies or projects is textbook ADHD, especially if you don't feel like you can get out of it and describe it as a "huge live hurdle". That is the same for me. Got diagnosed at 30 two months ago. If you have a suspicion you might have it, I highly recommend doin…
Edit: The above can be read as dismissive and that's not what I intended. Please see my reply further down for more context.
I'm in the 40-45 year old range and assuming you are much younger. Apologies if we are closer in age, since this advice will carry less value.
I have often been envious of people who were more focused than I am. I feel they have been able to make more progress in a given amount of time. I worked as a mover in Boston into my mid twenties, spent a bunch of time trying to become an elite athlete, climbed big mountains, eventually learned to code, got involved in some early ecommerce businesses, eventually video gaming industry, and finally a principle engineer for the playback technology we use on Disney+.
I was complaining about my lack of focus to an old college mate, and he posed an extremely relevant question: "Do you regret your experiences?"
No, I don't. Not one bit. The experiences I've gathered are assets which build on each other, leading to more and more valuable experiences.
I have an objective of starting my own company, even at this ripe old age, and I am more confident than ever that I'll be successful at it. I have the experiences I need to pursue just about any dream.
Go out and get experiences. If your personality is such that you get a varied scope of experience, it will serve you well. Don't fight it.
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>You don't "find what you are good at" - that is backwards. [...] , working at learning and practicing, you will become good at it. Because of the imprecise way the op phrased his question, I think you've misinterpreted it. I agree with sibling comment (jstx1) that op is not asking about "good" as a skill-level change from beginner to expert. Instead, the op is asking something like... "How do I find the one activity…
I like and agree with the take that OP should look for opportunities that put them in a flow state. I'll give an example from my own experience. I'm not a naturally great programmer. I mean, I'm not bad - I get the job done. But I know that there are plenty of folks out there for which it comes much more easily. However - programming very consistently puts me into a flow state. My workdays pass quickly (in a good way…
Maybe if you stick with one thing you'll become really good at it. Most (maybe all) people aren't inherently really good at anything.