Earlier quoted context omitted.
For us we have our app deployed to $N containers with a load balancer in front (pretty standard stuff I think?) In Erlang/Elixir you can actually override how instances of the BEAM find each other (instead of the standard EPMD daemon), so we have a module that does some DNS queries, finds the IPs of the other containers and says “hi, here’s your cluster, discovery done.” (Your setup may preclude all that, I know this…
Can you speak more to how you bypass EPMD and send the IPs of the containers to each other? That would be great for a problem we’re seeing where I work
You can skip to "Let’s use something else" if you've already got a good grasp of the knobs to tune with epmd.