> It's almost as if there's a frustrating unmet need with signal as it stands
Do you have an alternative suggestion? Is there an app and platform you'd rather use over Signal? Maybe Wickr? Matrix? (AN0M? )
My take is there's a very small "unmet need" that frustrates such a small number of people that everybody who's tried to usurp Signal has effectively failed.
Signal has literally become "SMS but secure" for everybody I know.
> signal is the only thing that can talk to people on signal
That's untrue. There is nobody in my signal messages that I cannot talk to over the phone, via SMS, and almost everybody I can talk to via email (with a vanishingly small number of those for whom I have trusted PGP keys).
A agree with your premise that it'd be really nice to piggyback Signal's contact graph without having to do the work and make the compromises Signal have done to create that graph. But that's a totally unreasonable expectation.
(And FWIW, I think Signal totally lucked out early on by being in the right place at the right time to build their contact graph. My network of friends/colleagues exploded back when WhatsApp fucked up their messaging/policy a few years back, and practically overnight my "normal" and non privacy focussed or recreationally paranoid friends all rage quit Facebook messaging and encouraged each other to move to Signal. There was a super obvious step change in who my available Signal contacts became back then, and I'm not convinced Signal would be what it is today without that fuckup by Facebook back then.)