I think you can simplify this. Consider your wants and needs. Most of us get stuck in our wants. We want to get a promotion, we want a nice car, we want a perfect family vacation. But do we need any of those? Not necessarily. We get stuck on the treadmill by not knowing the difference of our wants and needs. When you realize you don’t need the things you want, you focus more on the things you need. Introspection in m…
Can you give some examples of needs? The obvious ones are food, water, shelter and (for most people) companionship. Any others?
i.e. Autonomy, competence, relatedness.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-determination_theory
One of the better books on this topic is "Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization" by Scott Barry Kaufman
Here's a piece I wrote based on that book:
Think of your life as a sailboat.
The hull protects us from the waves and keeps us safe.
The sail allows us to explore and adapt to our environment.
However, to get anywhere, we must open our sail to the world. Without that, we're stuck in harbor.
As we set out in the world in the many different directions we each may take in life. We are all sailing into the unknown of the sea together.
So while a ship in harbor is safe, that's not what ships are built for.
Even though you're alone in your boat, it's nice to see other lights along the way.