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Do you regret deleting FB or IG or any social media?

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Do you regret deleting FB or IG or any social media?

#1
I have long been thinking about deleting my FB account after taking out all the info and datapoints. I have been actively using FB many years ago, I still have a lot of "friends on facebook" who I haven't really talked with in over 3-4 years, I still go to FB because it's a habit and all I get is the waste of time in groups about birds not being real. I feel the urge to delete FB to become more productive (I know, sounds funny). I have already deleted most social media apps from my phone, but I still use it all via browser. There are no benefits from FB, I don't know why I need it, I have not used FB to communicate with anyone from real life in over 4 years. I know many of you have been deleting facebook accounts over a really long time due to data sharing concerns – but after deleting, do you find yourself missing anything from FB? Do you wish you could bring back time and not delete FB? Or do you simply not think about it anymore? I know it should not be a big deal, but FB was the center of my online life many years ago and although, now looking back, I realise it was rather unhealthy and obsessive, I still feel like deleting it would delete a significant part of my life, even if it was in the past.

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#3
I have noticed quite a few friends stopped showing up in my feed and when I look for them, they have completely disappeared from Facebook. These are friends from college who don't live nearby anymore, or former coworkers that I would see maybe once a year at kids' birthdays. I miss seeing updates like when they take a cool vacation or their kid wins a baseball game. If there were a way to still get and share updates like these without all the other BS that comes with social media, I'd be interested.

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#6
No, but I never used social media all that much in the first place. Sites like HN fill any gap that might have been left in my electronic social needs, and I'm trying to whittle these down too. Using dedicated devices for different tasks has helped me a lot in compartmentalizing and avoiding distraction.

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#7
Yes. This is why I got back on these platforms, because much as people on HN might say to use Signal or Telegram, the reality is that network effects are incredibly strong. I missed many, many things being outside of those circles, simply because people will not go out of their way in their day to day life just to cater to you. Once or twice, or perhaps for important things like weddings or birthdays, but the biggest thing that's lost is spontaneity of interaction.

Since rejoining, I've had many nice experiences catching up with people based on their Instagram or Snapchat stories, or being in Facebook Messenger group chats, something I would not have spontaneously been able to do had it not been for these platforms.

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#8
I deleted my FB and IG accounts about a year ago and have no regrets. I find myself spending less time on my phone and not reaching for it every time I have a free moment. If I need to find the contact info for someone, I use LinkedIn.

What I miss the most is getting birthday reminders and event invites. What I miss the least is the negative feelings social media gave me about my life and the world more broadly.

What I have found is my connections with the people I keep in touch with is much deeper because I don’t let a “like” replace a true interaction. I am intentional about adding birthdays to my calendar now and once my friends realized I wasn’t hearing about events, they made sure to let me know.

I highly recommend it. Both platforms allow you to recover your account within a time frame so it’s kind of a no lose situation if you want to try it out. One recommendation before you do: make sure you download all of your pictures, videos, etc… first.

I sincerely hope you do this and wish you the best of luck if you do.

Edit: lowercased an AND and deleted and incomplete sentence

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#10
I used especially instagram a lot. But years ago Apple released screen time statics for the apps/sties I spend my time. The first results were shocked me enough. I delete them(instagram and reddit) and now I use only via browser. Which means less than 30 Min a week. I got my life back :)
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