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What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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For many of these reasons which I also experience, I was hoping there'd be more of a blend of home/in-office emerge.

Instead in both programming jobs Ive had post pandemic, it is all remote. I've met my workmates in person perhaps thrice despite working at the company for a year. It is surreal.

> it feels like I’m living in Groundhog Day everyday. Every single day looks exactly the same

This in particular, and it is even worse if you live alone.

Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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As the world opens up, working from home doesn’t have to mean living from home. A lot of structure and friendship can come from self-selected groups and activities, not just those who the organization put on your team.

The author mentions a lack of willpower to implement solutions, and I totally get it, so if there’s just one thing I would strongly suggest getting a personal trainer, which several people described changing their lives in a thread yesterday. I got one when I was having trouble with energy mid pandemic, and even though I chose not to continue with her in specific, the kickstart was fantastic

Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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post #3

For many of these reasons which I also experience, I was hoping there'd be more of a blend of home/in-office emerge. Instead in both programming jobs Ive had post pandemic, it is all remote. I've met my workmates in person perhaps thrice despite working at the company for a year. It is surreal. > it feels like I’m living in Groundhog Day everyday. Every single day looks exactly the same This in particular, and it is…

Have you considered coworking at a closer destination?

I've been working on distributed teams since around 2011, though I have been contracting from home for five years before that. In the very first distributed team I joined, the eng director made it a point to:

  - Have everyone gather in-person periodically by flying everyone to HQ
  - Making coworking spaces available
  - Traveling to the different cities to meet with the team
  - Setting "core hours", a subset of the regular business hours of the US timezones 
The director is an Erlang guy. I sometimes think he applied some distributed systems reasoning to the dynamics of the distributed team.

I found that the daily standup was an important synchronization point for remote-first and distributed teams.

Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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> I have solutions to a lot of these problems. I just don’t always have the mental strength to actually use the solutions.

This is the key, I think. Even in a general sense, very few of the problems we face in day-to-day life are unsolvable. But having the discipline and strength to actually implement those solutions -- especially when they require sustained effort -- can be really hard.

I've been running into this too lately, now that I have more time on my hands. I've picked most of the low-hanging fruit from my personal project list, and it's hard to find the motivation to keep going. Lately I've been spending a lot of time watching TV shows and movies, reading books, and reading random things on the internet (like HN). These aren't pointless activities, but I'd like to be spending more of my time on activities that I personally find more valuable.

Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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post #2

sounds like depression

Absolutely. WFH makes me extremely depressed, and it resolves immediately when I return to an office. For me a personal coworking space was enough to stave it off, but an actual office would be much preferred.

I also got depressed by working from home.

Recently I joined a rowing club and joined a coworking space.

Working remotely is nice. Working out of your living room is intense.

Getting a watch that will tell me when I've been sitting still for too long is nice, too.

Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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Guy sounds like he lives alone and is depressed. I have exactly none of these problems. Go to sleep by 8:30, wake up around 3 every day, no alarms, no explicit schedule, no planning. It's just habit. I don't need to find stuff to do. I keep the house clean. Keep my car clean. Complete renovation projects. I don't find it takes much mental energy at all to work out every day. What the heck else am I gonna do waking up at 3 AM? I don't want to be friends with my co-workers. I've already got my wife, our neighbors, all the people at the community pool and local dive bar we hang out at.

Just do stuff. Don't look for meaning in things. It's a glaring red flag that he finds the idea of working 15 hour surgical shifts appealing and wants someone else to tell him what to do and give his life structure. That isn't meaning. That's just outsourcing your decision-making. You're going to die, sooner than you'd like, and everyone who ever gave a shit you once existed will die as well. I spend so much of my time wiping down surfaces, lifting weights, sweeping and vacuuming floors, for what? I know damn well it will all go to shit and rot into dust within days, if not hours, of my death. To paraphrase Beric Dondarrion, entropy is the enemy, and the enemy always wins. But still we fight, because what the fuck else are we supposed to do? You either kill yourself, you fill your time with something, anything, or you sit around writing think pieces about how much you despair over not knowing what to do with your time.

A good place to start is don't hijack the right click action on your blog.

I probably sound like an asshole, but I do empathize. I've felt this way a lot. Then I get over it and get back to work. Then I despair again. Then I get over it and get back to work. Hopefully this guy at least goes through similar cycles and doesn't just spend his entire life directionless and depressed. It's okay to slow down and realize how pointless this all is every now and again. Just don't let it consume you, and eventually get over it and get back to work. Not your job, but your life. Live it, no matter how stupid and pointless it is.

Re: What I don’t like about working at a remote job

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Some people just aren't up to working remotely permanently. Those who need to be social with colleagues and this author says that when they mention they want colleagues to be friends. Not me. I want colleagues to be just that. I don't need to tell them what I did at the weekend as it's my business and I don't care what they did.

Willpower is a learned skill that you can fine-tune so you are focused on your work. You need to treat your work as the single most important think in your life during the work hours. Don't surf the web from your work computer. Don't allow yourself to deviate from the regular daily routine.

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