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Bridesmaids go professional

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Post by selimthegrim »

ironmagma wrote: post #38
devchix wrote: post #35

I've read that rent-a-family is a normalized service in Japan, I don't know if that's a common rental there. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rental_family_service This makes me think that humans don't crave actual emotional ties and connection as much as the appearance of one. That is, they are not paying for love and kinship, just the ritual of it, which maybe all we have to go on. "There's no such thing as love, only…

To me it's just a reminder that the east and west are different. It seems "kinda weird" to me to want a fake family, but it's not more shocking than wanting thousands of TikTok or Instagram followers. It's good we have diversity of values, as it makes us more resilient as a species, although I suspect this trend will not take off in the US.

I’m pretty sure ancient Romans and Greeks hired mourners too.

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spyspy wrote: post #39

As someone who recently got married I can tell you that anyone in the wedding party who hasn't been married is useless. Total dead weight at best and counterproductive, self-centered a*holes at worst (sorry the venue made you get a covid test Greg). But the ones that have are worth their weight in gold. The behavior, thoughtfulness, and even the toasts are night and day. For context we really had 6 wedding coordinato…

Nonsense you can still give a good toast even if you aren’t married.

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Post by rdtwo »

spyspy wrote: post #39

As someone who recently got married I can tell you that anyone in the wedding party who hasn't been married is useless. Total dead weight at best and counterproductive, self-centered a*holes at worst (sorry the venue made you get a covid test Greg). But the ones that have are worth their weight in gold. The behavior, thoughtfulness, and even the toasts are night and day. For context we really had 6 wedding coordinato…

That doesn’t sound like a wedding it sounds like a money bonfire.

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Post by kmcnoble »

Personally I don’t know why someone would want a random person in their wedding and photos. I’d rather have no one than have someone random stand with you on my day and in all of my pictures to look back on. Bridesmaids are meant to be close friends and family that you could not do the day without and mean a lot to you. If they couldn’t come I wouldn’t substitute them.

However having been in over 9 weddings myself I wouldn’t hate the hustle to have this side gig as I can probably can be a professional bridesmaid at this point.

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Post by bobthepanda »

danans wrote: post #40
bobthepanda wrote: post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It seems like it's more of an aesthetic choice according to TFA. > COVID-19 travel restrictions have made it hard to find friends able to travel to weddings, while some couples complain they can’t find friends that are up to the standard. > A bridesmaid needs to be unmarried, Xie told Sixth Tone on Monday, and it’s important not to be taller than the bride. For aspiring professionals, 155 cm-173 cm is a good height,…

> So if you are a short woman who has married later than most of your shorter female friends, this is the service for you. That's extremely niche. Also, I'm guessing if you are excluding friends based on their height, you must not be great friends with them, and maybe vice versa. I'd guess it's more likely that bridesmaids in general don't have such a sacrosanct and personal role in these weddings, and they function…

A niche in a country of 1.3B is still profitable enough for some to earn a living.

This seems like the wedding equivalent of professional mourners, which is practiced in China, but also Egypt and even recently in the UK a company offered these services. And it was common in the accounts of the Bible.

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rdtwo wrote: post #44
spyspy wrote: post #39

As someone who recently got married I can tell you that anyone in the wedding party who hasn't been married is useless. Total dead weight at best and counterproductive, self-centered a*holes at worst (sorry the venue made you get a covid test Greg). But the ones that have are worth their weight in gold. The behavior, thoughtfulness, and even the toasts are night and day. For context we really had 6 wedding coordinato…

That doesn’t sound like a wedding it sounds like a money bonfire.

Wedding and money bonfire are synonyms..
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