I have a slightly stupid question. How is it that we've come to a point where we think of application and database development as separate things? I think this sets the stage for a lot of the problems you're getting at.
On the one hand we make-believe that all you need to know is how to sling code and as long as you can somehow get your data into the database and out, then you've done your job as a developer. I think that's bullshit. No one would use your application without the data, so the database is as much of your responsibility as any other part of the system. You should know how to use it well and should take responsibility for its quality.
On the other hand, there are things that belong in application code, rather than, for example, in a stored procedure. Most things you could do with a stored procedure probably belong in application code. The app is where the business logic is, the database is where the data is. As a DBA you aren't doing your job right if you feel OK about implementing business rules in SQL. It's much poorer at expressing intent than an OO language would be, it's less readable, and doubles the number of places you need to look for domain logic.
The WTF's go both ways.