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#1 Recommendation is no Roblox. It destroys kids. Not to mention, exploration by the game itself, and pedos. Kids who play are unable to do anything else. Maybe your kid will be able to regulate, but I’d guess not. Ask an elementary school teacher about it. #2 is no devices in their own bedroom. Edit: Exploitation not exploration
You mean exploitation, right?
All of the answers to your questions are personal to you and your beliefs. The only considerations are to set some ground rules for using these things, moderate how long they can be on them a day, and have a trusting relationship about what they are doing on it by asking them regularly and caring without being too protective.
You may benefit from reading “The Self-Driven Child”.
I have some pre-teen children that have access to an iPad, Xbox, and an Apple TV. My #1 recommendation is NO YOUTUBE, unless it's for education purposes. I don't have the App installed on any of my kids devices (they can access it via the website, but they don't do that). It's just a cesspool of garbage for kids. Even YouTube Kids is bad. Occasionally, they will complain about not having the YouTube app... but I neve…
Great tips. Agree with the youtube vision you have. How do you deal with banning youtube all together? It's even on the smart tv menu. It's like playin whack a mole.
I have friends with children in the age of 12-14, one of which excessively monitors his son's online behavior. He's shown me results of his monitoring and it pretty much ended the debate. Weird old guys contacting his son, excessive cyberbullying, swearing (fine by me, but still), being drawn to the wrong kind of "friends", hate speech, general addiction and obsession with games and in-game items, the list goes on. D…
I'm almost 40 and weird old guys contact me on the internet all the time.
I have some pre-teen children that have access to an iPad, Xbox, and an Apple TV. My #1 recommendation is NO YOUTUBE, unless it's for education purposes. I don't have the App installed on any of my kids devices (they can access it via the website, but they don't do that). It's just a cesspool of garbage for kids. Even YouTube Kids is bad. Occasionally, they will complain about not having the YouTube app... but I neve…
Great tips. Agree with the youtube vision you have. How do you deal with banning youtube all together? It's even on the smart tv menu. It's like playin whack a mole.
I have friends with children in the age of 12-14, one of which excessively monitors his son's online behavior. He's shown me results of his monitoring and it pretty much ended the debate. Weird old guys contacting his son, excessive cyberbullying, swearing (fine by me, but still), being drawn to the wrong kind of "friends", hate speech, general addiction and obsession with games and in-game items, the list goes on. D…
> Weird old guys contacting his son I'm almost 40 and weird old guys contact me on the internet all the time.
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> Weird old guys contacting his son I'm almost 40 and weird old guys contact me on the internet all the time.
The difference is that you're not a naive, inexperienced with life and prime target for predators 13 years old boy.
Other replies already addressed the screen time/hanging out together aspect, so I will comment on being unsupervised. I was a kid on the early-ish internet and I was free to "surf the interwebs" unsupervised. The internet is not the same anymore but I think the general rules still apply. This was a very valuable learning experience for me. Based on my own experience (anecdata, I know) what I found really helped me is…
Great advice. I'm not a parent (yet) but reading your comment it strikes me that playing outdoors is safer than it was when I was a kid in the 90s, but is more discouraged. Playing online is actually more dangerous than it was in the 90s/00s but is more encouraged.
Our strategy is explicit in categorizing digital activity as reading literature, gaming, content consumption, and creation.
We will sometimes tell the kids that they are only allowed to play games on the iPad, and if they are in a ‘ I only want to drone out and watch shows‘-Mode, then they will actually choose to do something else in the real world many times.
Shows are super useful for road trips, road trips have never been easier. But download good movies to their device to limit choices.