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The emotional maturity version of the Dunning-Kruger effect will eventually turn this into a cesspool of angry incels. “Finally, a place where I will be appreciated and stand out from those other morons.”
Title is kinda garbage. What Hinge is to OkCupid - Feeld is to FetLife. That's what I've gathered from the queer people in my life. I find these articles written by (mostly) women who get such easy access to sex to be a bit... cringey. It's often written in such a way that clearly shows a privilege that is basically completely unknown to them. Akin to being rich and being unaware most people can't just ask their pare…
Analogous to the ubiquitous harassment and "male gaze" encountered by people like the author (because dudes want their bodies), you will experience ubiquitous (and aggressive) harassment and "third world gaze" -- because everybody wants your money. "I'm not just a pair of boobs" becomes "I'm not just a walking ATM", and so on.
You will continue to want to go out in public, but you will also want to find "safe spaces" -- expat hangouts, good hotels... places that keep out the riffraff. At some point you just need to be able to hang out by the pool without somebody trying to rip you off in their tuk-tuk or sell you a suit.
Or, say, go to your yoga class before making your way to the job from which it's too much political hassle to ever fire you.
Whatever. Chronos crushes us all. "I am become time", says Vishnu. She'll learn, eventually.
Title is kinda garbage. What Hinge is to OkCupid - Feeld is to FetLife. That's what I've gathered from the queer people in my life. I find these articles written by (mostly) women who get such easy access to sex to be a bit... cringey. It's often written in such a way that clearly shows a privilege that is basically completely unknown to them. Akin to being rich and being unaware most people can't just ask their pare…
I'm a pretty average looking white guy and I'd say you are completely wrong in your assessment. Have you actually tried this? It's true that women get a lot more approaches a lot quicker then men. But this whole "oh no I'm a guy the world is against me" is nonsense. You need to seem interesting in some way.
Quite so. Women on the other hand don't need to seem interesting to get as much casual sex as they can handle. Which was the point.
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> The root cause is unknown. Anecdata: My grandpa had 9 kids. When asked for the reason, he would say that in his times there was no TV. Now we have computers, tablets, phones and thousands of ways of consuming content. Almost everyone is addicted to their phones. I wouldn’t be surprised if we are just having a lot less human interaction, because we are preferring our devices. In fact right now I’m writing this comme…
> Anecdata: My grandpa had 9 kids. When asked for the reason, he would say that in his times there was no TV. You realize this is of course a joke? Every country in the world decreases birthrate as their socio-economic stability increases, because in part they no longer have to rely on having lots of kids to take care of them when they are old. The rest of your comment goes almost exactly against the story that is li…
I don't think this is some thoughtless conservative belief, but rather one that's bringing up how everything primarily being online nowadays is causing less in-person communication than ever. I mean with fewer people having sex each year, it makes sense to suspect the things that have changed between the generations that didn't have this issue and the ones that now do.
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It's true that maybe it matters where you are. I imagine SF and Seattle might be different. I was recently in for a bit and didn't have trouble getting dates on Tinder, and picked up a 26yo girl from Seattle in a bar. I don't think I'm good looking, but I am interesting . I talk well with people both online and in person. > Also - I take “average looking white guy” with a grain of salt. Well thanks and I wish that wa…
> I don't think I'm good looking, but I am interesting. I talk well with people both online and in person. If only online dating relied on talking to get a match. Instead it relies on - hmm - your photos to get a match. Why is this so hard for older men to get? This is a repeated issue on HN. Like you use the app - you realize the photos are the most important thing. Just face it / you’re more physically attractive t…
On Feeld I had a scenery photo to keep my identity secret. That isn't uncommon.
> Looking ahead, Fulford said, Feeld might expand to connecting people in physical spaces and at events as well as online. “We don’t see ourselves just as a dating company,” he said but, rather, as “something that potentially looks like a media or network platform company.” It’s a nice idea, but making Feeld too much about figuring out who you are and less about already knowing might alienate a user base that is tire…
What should they do differently were they to realize it's post-Eternal-September?
If they are in a pre-Eternal-September situation and they want to avoid Eternal September, that's different. Then, they should work to slow user growth, improve onboarding, and have some moderation. The goal is to integrate new users slowly, so they buy into the culture before they change it. It's difficult.