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Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by throw_xxx_rated »

throw_xxx_rated wrote: post #10
throw_xxx_rated wrote: post #3

Throwaway account for obvious reasons I'm on Feeld and wow the headline for article is a weird take. Compared to Tinder and Bumble there aren't many people (which isn't surprising) and it's very explicitly about non-vanilla sex, and I would never have thought that "emotionally mature" would characterize the people on it. I'm in my 40s and I have trouble finding people my age. It's ok if you want to find a rope bunny…

Having said that - while I remain critical of the headline - the article is quite good (hey it's a NewYorker article so it's long). I do think it reflects the author's experience a lot though. It doesn't reflect what I've seen when I use the app.

Someone asked how it compares to FetLife but deleted their question.

My response was:

Many more swingers.

I've never tried to use FetLife as a dating app. But in my city I recognize many people across the both (so yes a lot of people into kink, which often doesn't really overlap much with the swinger community).

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by pjbeam »

dvt wrote: post #5

Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only th…

I took that turn of phrase to mean something akin to the detachment she felt/feels to life. The whole article read to me like an ode to post post modern drifting in and out of superficial encounters. I ended up reading the whole thing while waiting to see if there was going to be a prod issue tonight. I'm definitely not the New Yorker's target audience.

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by majormajor »

throw_xxx_rated wrote: post #3

Throwaway account for obvious reasons I'm on Feeld and wow the headline for article is a weird take. Compared to Tinder and Bumble there aren't many people (which isn't surprising) and it's very explicitly about non-vanilla sex, and I would never have thought that "emotionally mature" would characterize the people on it. I'm in my 40s and I have trouble finding people my age. It's ok if you want to find a rope bunny…

My take on the "emotionally mature" after the article + your comment is "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla."

Never used Feeld, not in the market at the moment, but I never saw anyone on Tinder who put any kinks up front.

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by phkahler »

majormajor wrote: post #13
throw_xxx_rated wrote: post #3

Throwaway account for obvious reasons I'm on Feeld and wow the headline for article is a weird take. Compared to Tinder and Bumble there aren't many people (which isn't surprising) and it's very explicitly about non-vanilla sex, and I would never have thought that "emotionally mature" would characterize the people on it. I'm in my 40s and I have trouble finding people my age. It's ok if you want to find a rope bunny…

My take on the "emotionally mature" after the article + your comment is "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla." Never used Feeld, not in the market at the moment, but I never saw anyone on Tinder who put any kinks up front.

>> "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla."

That can be a sign of vulnerability, or something more along the lines of defiance. One is more mature, the other is quite the opposite.

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by sushxbehshx »

babelfish wrote: post #7
dvt wrote: post #5

Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only th…

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Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by DaveFr »

> Looking ahead, Fulford said, Feeld might expand to connecting people in physical spaces and at events as well as online. “We don’t see ourselves just as a dating company,” he said but, rather, as “something that potentially looks like a media or network platform company.” It’s a nice idea, but making Feeld too much about figuring out who you are and less about already knowing might alienate a user base that is tired of having to explain itself. Its members just want to meet others who have already been to the rave, or the dungeon, or the dark room, or the play space, and who don’t need the rules of engagement to be spelled out.

This is a company that in it's pre-Eternal-September era and might not realize it. I hope they figure out how to retain their magic.

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by pseudalopex »

dvt wrote: post #5

Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only th…

> Sounds like the writer is trying to ascribe some kind of moral superiority to enjoying non-vanilla casual sex.

Sounds more like contrast to other hookup apps.

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by jfabre »

dvt wrote: post #5

Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only th…

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Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by 0xBABAD00C »

DaveFr wrote: post #16

> Looking ahead, Fulford said, Feeld might expand to connecting people in physical spaces and at events as well as online. “We don’t see ourselves just as a dating company,” he said but, rather, as “something that potentially looks like a media or network platform company.” It’s a nice idea, but making Feeld too much about figuring out who you are and less about already knowing might alienate a user base that is tire…

What should they do differently were they to realize it's post-Eternal-September?

Re: A hookup app for the emotionally mature

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Post by bravetraveler »

babelfish wrote: post #7
dvt wrote: post #5

Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only th…

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I must assume to share an opinion, what a silly question
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