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Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

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Re: Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

#41
> ...I work from home. My job is technically interesting, and I still learn/improve. I do not have meetings. One or sometimes two 30 min calls a week with my boss. Most days, I do not have to interact with anyone from work, not even customer contact...

@perfectjob This job sounds great; good for you! I have felt many times what you have felt...and some people close to me have wondered if maybe in my case it was some sort of mild depression. Have you considered speaking with a professional? I should emphasize that this might not be any sort of mild depression but the "American way", as others have eluded, where reaching a partocular level makes one feel like it might noe be "enough" (whatever that means).

By the way, may i ask if you wouldn't mind sharing a bit more what your job entails? I'm a little older, and admittedly at a different stage of life, but your role sounds like what i might like...maybe, depending on what you actually do for your living. If you don't want to share here, feel free to email me privately. (My address can be obtained by viewing my HN profile.) Thanks, and I hope that you feel better! As others tell me: life isn't as bad or as boring or as unfulfilling as you might think! :-)

Re: Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

#42
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Some advice from someone a bit further down the career path: * If you want to try something, try it! Save up some runway, do your own thing. Try some other projects right now, don't wait. (You won't be able to devote full time effort to them, but can still make progress.) You may find that what you dream about isn't all that, or maybe it is. Either way you can take steps forward. * I learned to be happy with my life…

> It is a cliche, but kids are only young once. Enjoy that time.

This. So many times over. Everything else can be done later or slowly. Don't miss the good bits!

Re: Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

#45
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonic_treadmill

It kind of sounds like you are coming from a baseline assumption that your job should be the most important thing in your life, the thing that gives you fulfillment. That can be true for some people but it isn't true for all people, perhaps not even most people, as much as HN would have you believe that it is.

You have to make your own happiness. All of this shit is fundamentally meaningless anyway, so start from there and figure out how you want to spend your time.

No one here can solve your ennui for you. Only advice I can give is start trying things, throwing shit at the wall and see what sticks.

Re: Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

#46
My friend I am in the same way. I am about to be 30 soon, working 1 - 2 hours 95% of the time, 0 calls or meetings that I don't dictate, no manager / quarterly reviews / 1on1s / etc.

All this while making north of $300k, and I still am not satisfied and looking for more. I grew up poor on food stamps and busted myself for minimum wage and was happy. Now I'm here with almost no work, lots of respect at work, great pay, big house with pool, and I just feel like I want more.

Re: Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

#47
Because work is a means towards an end not the end itself.

Pretty much everything in this life is a means towards the end.

We were created to know and love God which is our ultimate end that will satisfy all our desires. Without him you will always feel something is missing.

Re: Tell HN: I have the perfect job, why is it not enough?

#50
I just left that same situation for law school. I start at a patent law firm in the fall making about 1.5x my salary as a SWE, with significantly more upward potential.

I'll let you know if I settle and slow down or become happy with the way it is without always wanting more. /s

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