It’s a space that is inclusive of queer folks. If someone can’t handle that, then yeah, they probably aren’t mature enough to safely interact with those people. Every space needs to have some rules in the event that someone gets nasty. Someone who gets upset when they encounter a non-binary person is probably going to make those people feel unwelcome. So you can either protect the vulnerable people or you can allow the bully to push other people out. But whoever is organizing that space can consciously decide, or they can let the bully decide for them.
By the way, you seem to have this really charged, negative view of queer spaces. Which I respectfully want to suggest is a misunderstanding of those spaces. I mean, if you go in all angry and complaining about other people, then sure, they’re gonna (rightfully) kick you out. But that’s true of most places if you show up and act like a jerk. The truth about these places, and being queer in general, is that this is a beautiful space of happiness for so many people. Being able to express gender openly without judgment is a positive, empowering experience for so many people. All you have to do to fit in is accept that. You don’t have to like it, though that is encouraged. But if you get so upset by someone existing as their true self that you have to argue with others, you’re probably not a good fit for that space.
I want to suggest you listen to the YouTube channel Beau of the Fifth Column. He’s got a lot of great takes he explains in a way I think you’d understand. And sometimes he talks about stuff like this.
Anyway I’m non-binary. I’m taking hormones and expressing my gender in ways I never knew I could (wearing clothes I “wasn’t supposed” to wear). It feels great. All I really ask for is that you accept me for who I am. And I hope you see that I’m able to be kind to you even though I know you think I’m a “pronoun person”.
Edit: Here’s a couple videos from Beau of the Fifth column talking about gender. He’s a white guy from the south who explains things in a non judgmental way and I think he has a good perspective, but I’ll let you decide:
https://youtu.be/vQ53lVyi4so
https://youtu.be/FaFK9uqbqrY