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When you are calm, cool, and collected, take stock of what you have left, i.e. money, time, skills, health. Put them to good use. Learn to be frugal with your time. To me, time and health are more important than money.
Downshifting may be an option.
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Would you have any suggestions for finding work in fields like this? As a developer (mobile with some web and backend), I would love to have ongoing part-time work to provide enough income and free time to pursue other projects.
Where are you based?
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I've suffered from severe chronic back pain for the past 12 years or so, starting at the age of 16. It manifested as sciatica initially, and gradually became more severe. I had flare ups that would last months. It eventually started manifesting as SI joint pain, constantly switching sides. Over the years I had been to 4 different physiotherapists, tried everything from regular core exercises formulated by Stuart McGi…
psychosomatic effects are strange, i'm gonna peak at this book also there are non individualistic leverage to curing the mind/body aspect I tried a lot of meditation, hygiene and sport, but nothing had as much impact as having a daily life (commute,job,colleagues). It seems we're also very dependent on our context.
I don't know what kind of pain you are experiencing but just as a litmus test I would try to go trough easier yoga positions to check out where your body has deficits and visit a good sport physioterapist. I also got very good set of exercises from personal trainer that unblocked full mobility in my body and mobily has a lot of downstream effects. One of my best money spent IMO, just after surgery that got rid of nasty medical condition (in gut). After this relaxing morning yoga wins and is free.
How does the pain stops you from working? Can't focus? Stressing too much? Can't move? I had kinda chronic pain(lighter one) pre surgery and only thing was that I was tired all the time and depressed but I could work kinda fine but my stress management was bad (as any stressor got amplified by pain).
From health perspective I would check spine > gut > fascia/tendons/joints/muscles in this order. You can also get common hormones/markers checked to see if everything is all right.
I can also recommend sauna, massage or floating for relaxation of musles and mind. Maybe some of these will help you.
I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. While this can be challenging everywhere, the US is especially bad at providing adequate support, both financially and otherwise. What might help you is looking for a job with part time responsibilities and part time wages and investing full-time into that job if you need to to keep up. If this is viable for a tech role you’re likely to…
> I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. At least in the USA, the ADA ensures that many places are built to be wheelchair-accessible; bathrooms in public places have accommodations, grocery stores have ramps, stairs always have an alternative, etc I'm pretty sure in most countries in the world, mobility would be far lower for the disabled.
I'm a traveling controls engineer, systems integrator, it is not a easy life. I've had plenty of burnout moments, those 100hr weeks where you worked everyday just getting the job done. As that is what needs to happen when a scheduled shutdown of a facility that pulls in over a million dollars a day is non operational. Falling behind is not an option. Luckily for me I've had pretty good luck for the most part and have always been on top of things.
But issues do happen, like the electrician landing 120v to a analog card that the lead times for makes it unobtanium. And with that the old VFD's that relied on that card for a return speed reference. In those times using generic remote IO you had in your truck with a analog card can get things up and running, and make you look like a hero. But going without sleep to get it workin is not enjoyable. Anyone that knows AB Hardware and its shitty support of Modbus would know. Using a add-on you've never used, as you'd normally use a red lion in this use case.
My body aches all the time. and I always have a full work load. On top of three kids at home.
There is no excuse to being lazy. Even pain. Disability is min wage, it is a sad shitty life. My wife's mom is disabled, she has to live on what would be considered poverty wages. She doesn't do anything with her life, and she can't drive because of said disability.
Get to the Gym, get a job, get life back on track.
If you are done with programming, deliver pizza.
My best friend is a full stack web dev, but he too would rather not work as the idea of having day to day responsibilities is too much. He moved homes a year ago, and it still looks like he moved last week. Issue? he smokes pot non stop and gets by on minimal contract work while his wife bring in 80% of the income.
Playing Video Games, Smoking Weed, Jerkin Off, etc isn't going to get your life on track. I'm a traveling controls engineer, systems integrator, it is not a easy life. I've had plenty of burnout moments, those 100hr weeks where you worked everyday just getting the job done. As that is what needs to happen when a scheduled shutdown of a facility that pulls in over a million dollars a day is non operational. Falling be…
Not to derail this thread or to sound like I am criticizing OP, but everyone should take this post as a reminder to look into having a disability insurance policy. Your megacorp may offer a policy, but look into getting your own guaranteed renewable non-cancelable policy, as it provides greater protection. The Bogleheads wiki has a good page describing what is important to obtain in such a policy.
When I got licensed, they quoted to us saying that "you are 8 times more likely to need disability insurance than life insurance (and you are guaranteed to die!)." This is due to something like 20-25% of people needing disability insurance during their working careers and most people dying during retirement with not a lot of bills left behind.