I'm similar to this as well. I've suspected that I might fall under the Schizoid Personality Disorder spectrum. But I don't like psychologizing very much.
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#102Earlier quoted context omitted.
I’m so tired of hearing people say this as if we haven’t already googled every non-medical intervention imaginable before resorting to meds. Nobody wants to be on meds their whole life. Nobody. Why do people always assume I and others like me “took the easy way out” and always say “well did you just try exercise/sunlight/chakra/insertdietyhere??” Before I finally got a doctor that could help I was tormented by people…
Honestly, I’m just sharing this stuff because I deal with depression too and it has helped me more than anything else, including SSRIs—I tried one years ago and found it to be worse than the depression. For me learning about the biochemistry involved really helped it click to the point that I was able to change some negative habits. I realize that what works for me won’t work for everyone, but it might for some. I’m…
You used just in the response, knowing how much they hate it.
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#103Sorry, the last two paragraphs got to me. You need to lighten up, and start trying to understand your fellow man. Small talk is never just small talk. It's a way of starting to understand another human being in some small way. It's just the beginning. You've adopted 'not seeing others' as a personality trait. It isn't, and there are no prizes for living a profound, lonely life, hoping to understand something deep abo…
That's a little harsh. A common misunderstanding about introverts is that they don't much enjoy talking with others. For many, it's rather that they are seeking meaningful communication, not vacuous chitchat about the weather or the Kardashians. That's what the author is expressing I think. At the same time there are plenty of people who can chitchat about drivel for hours, and will actively stop any conversation at…
There is a reason it is called a "conversation". You are not blown hither and yon by the winds of fate. You can steer. Some people won't go where you want to, but there are a lot of people. They might, too, bring you along to somewhere you didn't know you needed to be.
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#104> And maybe someday in the future, I'll come to the conclusion that I had wasted all this time by thinking I was in some way separate from everyone else, when I just needed to love them even more.
Sounds like you already figured out your own solution.
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#105I sympathize with the author. I'm in my mid-forties now and have recognized that I haven't been great at maintaining friendships. I think I've experienced something similar during the quarantining portion of the pandemic, where I didn't really interact with anyone directly, at least not in person. I had a job, so did interact with people over Zoom, and I will admit that that helped. A few months ago, however, I quit…
> So, I say to this poster, it's true that things like idle chitchat may not be your cup of tea, I think it's important to realize that many people don't enjoy it either but just use it as a social grease to move into more deep conversation or connection. it took me probably 7 years after moving out of my parent’s place to learn that “smalltalk” and “idle chitchat” are not necessarily the same thing. the “aha!” momen…
I too treat it like a minor sport. If you do it repeatedly to the same people it can flower into a a more meaningful relationship.
Some people don't have strong relationships in their life and even strangers making an effort can brighten their week.
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#106I have been down this path before. The author might benefit from a healthy dose of Stoicism. Yes, everything is imploding. It always has and it always will be. Yes, nobody truly understands you, and we're all putting on a show to make it through the day. That doesn't mean there isn't something real that has value in this facade of a fleeting existence. You can shut the world out if you like, but it is your choice. Yo…
> You can engage with it ... and it will engage you back. Not on your terms but on its own. So true, instead of trying to survive like most of humanity has done in the past, we've reached a point where, in our comfort, we now expect much more from the world. We expect relatable movie plots, novel twists, Disney endings, and the ability to push 'reset' on bad outcomes. Why is the world so messed up when everything loo…
Are you kidding, those modelling poses look ridiculous!
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#107Earlier quoted context omitted.
Understanding one of the languages used here, and seeing the included subtitles, I'd take no part of this documentary true, the subtitles are just absurd. What an absolute shame, for something so interesting, I don't even understand how something like this happens.
Could you go into some detail?
The majority of subtitles are just not what's being said at all, for no reason I could discern. It's not like what's being said is strongly at odds with the documentary, it feels like the person writing the subtitles was mostly guessing what's being said. A lot of things are really off too, they avoided the obvious questions about trying to understand the language, and also made the government look unreasonably effective in a way no brazilian would consider remotely likely to happen.
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#108Something I've learned is that you don't love and connect with people because of who they are; you don't often find people you magically feel close to or interested in right at the beginning. You can't hold out for that. You love and connect with people because... you love and connect with them. The more time you spend, the more you share about yourself, the more moments you have together- relationships will usually…
That has not been my experience at all. Of the many relationships I've had in my life (romantic, platonic, family, etc), I can count on one hand the number that became deep and meaningful.
Yes, deep relationships take time to develop. But there needs to be a lot more than simply time spent together; you need to be compatible as well.
But when you DO develop these deep and meaningful relationships, it's the best thing in the world, and something to treasure!
I was a LOT more strategic in my relationships leading up to my second marriage, and it paid off in spades.
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#109I’d strongly recommend discussing your feelings with a therapist Edit: to expand on this, yes, you identify some real problems with the modern world. But no, you don’t have to live like this. And a therapist may be able to help.
Yes, asap. This person is going through some stuff that a therapist can help with. Its not something to just accept and move on. Although that's kind of the vibe I am getting from some of the comments here.
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#110Earlier quoted context omitted.
No, the concept of a soul mate is that you have a bind that transcends this life, that there this is a journey your souls decided to take together before your birth. Ups, downs, whatever, it will work in the end, because that was the mission. To teach a lesson. Maybe the lesson was how to overcome differences? Now the common modern usage of soulmate just means “person was meant for me” and that’s open to 100% of your…
Do you think they were using the meaning that nobody's heard of or the modern one that everyone knows?
For what it’s worth, I’d only heard of the one you’re saying nobody has ever heard of so I thought it was a useful comment. What others are describing as soul mates I have heard described as an expectation of love at first sight, whereas soul mates are like the old couple that’s been together for 50 years (or one that’s on their way to that).
Since people seem sensitive about it I’m not trying to say one or the other is right just sharing how I’ve heard the terms used.