Ben Franklin was a prolific author and publisher. He would have owned something significantly larger and better than Twitter, not been a social media consumer and meme reposter
The Cracked Wisdom of Dril
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#12Sometimes, when I'm reading random articles (like this one), I'm struck with the feeling that most journalists inhabit the same tiny, tiny world. There are definitely some laughs to be found skimming @drils Twitter, though.
> the same tiny, tiny world
Manhattan? To be fair, probably Brooklyn, too, in recent years.
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#13Ben Franklin was a prolific author and publisher. He would have owned something significantly larger and better than Twitter, not been a social media consumer and meme reposter
You don't have to consume social media to post social media. He was a prolific pamphlet writer, which could be considered the bite-sized easily consumable publication of his day.
Without really knowing too much about the guy outside of his historical impact, I think he would use whatever method was effective at promoting his ideas.
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#14Earlier quoted context omitted.
I started interviewing people (across multiple different cities) for a new book I'm writing, and I'm shocked at how out of touch journalism has become. I expected progressive / left leaning answers from late 20s/early 30s people. On issues like healthcare/marijuana the answers were what I expected. On issues of dating/love/gender roles, I found a far more traditional response from both men and women (including severa…
Any interesting surprises?
I can tell you that most people do not believe that trans X are “ACTUALLY X” or that transgender women should be in competitive womens sports. It’s like, OK, you want to be a woman, you do you but don’t get into my women-only spaces. But most people with influence regardless of their beliefs don’t really say this in public.
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#15Earlier quoted context omitted.
Any interesting surprises?
I can tell you that most people do not believe that trans X are “ACTUALLY X” or that transgender women should be in competitive womens sports. It’s like, OK, you want to be a woman, you do you but don’t get into my women-only spaces. But most people with influence regardless of their beliefs don’t really say this in public.
I’ve never met a single person in real life who believes this (TWAW, etc.). But places like Twitter are foaming with accounts that at least perform these beliefs.
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#16Sometimes, when I'm reading random articles (like this one), I'm struck with the feeling that most journalists inhabit the same tiny, tiny world. There are definitely some laughs to be found skimming @drils Twitter, though.
Dril has about the same number of followers on Twitter as The Guardian has daily active readers. I don't know where you set the bar for relevance, but the author of this piece doesn't even live in America.
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#17Sometimes, when I'm reading random articles (like this one), I'm struck with the feeling that most journalists inhabit the same tiny, tiny world. There are definitely some laughs to be found skimming @drils Twitter, though.
I started interviewing people (across multiple different cities) for a new book I'm writing, and I'm shocked at how out of touch journalism has become. I expected progressive / left leaning answers from late 20s/early 30s people. On issues like healthcare/marijuana the answers were what I expected. On issues of dating/love/gender roles, I found a far more traditional response from both men and women (including severa…
> A common answer I received was: "I love the push for equal opportunities for men and women, but I desire [traditional gender role] and I dislike having to justify it to myself."
I always found this interesting. Do they think that it's not an option anymore? That's like saying "look, I get that left-handed people should have equal opportunities, but I'm right handed." Why is the option of something else treated as a threat? Is it a form of projection, the fear that it will somehow become illegal to be traditional, because they themselves have been extremely hostile to the nontraditional?
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#18Earlier quoted context omitted.
I can tell you that most people do not believe that trans X are “ACTUALLY X” or that transgender women should be in competitive womens sports. It’s like, OK, you want to be a woman, you do you but don’t get into my women-only spaces. But most people with influence regardless of their beliefs don’t really say this in public.
I’ve never met a single person in real life who believes this (TWAW, etc.). But places like Twitter are foaming with accounts that at least perform these beliefs.
We're here too! Trans women are women. Trans men are men. Nice to meet you.
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#19Sometimes, when I'm reading random articles (like this one), I'm struck with the feeling that most journalists inhabit the same tiny, tiny world. There are definitely some laughs to be found skimming @drils Twitter, though.
Dril has about the same number of followers on Twitter as The Guardian has daily active readers. I don't know where you set the bar for relevance, but the author of this piece doesn't even live in America.
Ah, I shouldn't have assumed. The language and the U.S. *zine lulled me into complacence.
The feeling continues, nonetheless.
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#20Earlier quoted context omitted.
Just edited my comment, happy to expand further if you want me to.
> On issues of dating/love/gender roles, I found a far more traditional response from both men and women AND trans people. Slight nit in that (most) trans people would also fall under men and women. (Sorry to be that person, it's just something I've learned a lot about semi-recently.) Curious to hear an elaboration on the definition of "far more traditional response" - I can think of a few things that could mean, and…
Good catch, I corrected my comment.
I'm writing about dating/love/relationships since I haven't been single as an adult until now. I have a funny/unique perspective since I'm now almost 30 and brand new to the game.
Here are some of the answers that were 100% unanimous amongst the heterosexual women I interviewed:
- Men should take on all form of "handyman" chores ("it's so hot when he uses his tools")
- Men should pay for dates/meals (within reason - but the baseline expectation of a "man who can provide" is there)
- Men should not cry unless there is a "good reason." This is actually a more complicated answer, and I'm still trying to figure it out. When pressed, women said that men crying can be very attractive if grounded in emotional maturity rather than "childish crying." Again, still trying to figure this one out.
- Men should pursue women. Women find it unattractive if they have to pursue men.
- Women highly value men who approach them in public (in an appropriate environment). My follow-up question was: "what if they're not attractive?" to which they replied something like "it's fine as long as they handle rejection well."
- Women want men who are more confident than they are.
- Men should always "take the lead" in dating and even throughout relationships. My follow-up question was: "but at what point does equality or partnership come into play?" To which the common response was: "I like taking the lead sometimes, but I don't want to be the leader."
- Women prefer "dad bods" as opposed to "jacked" or "body builder" looking men. This article: https://nypost.com/2021/03/25/dad-bods-are-the-biggest-turn-... was used as one of the references. I would describe this as men who are physically strong but have 12-18% bodyfat. - Women prefer tall men, but "it's more of a wishlist item than a strict requirement"
These answers are based on a sample size of 15 heterosexual women and will likely have less unanimity once I'm done.
Some of them are quite obvious, but some of them were shocking to me because I've read a few too many "articles" from blue checkmark Twitter users which made me think traditional masculinity was an inconvenient character flaw rather than something women were directly attracted to and looking for.
I'll be sending out a few chapters in the coming months: https://theloveoncepromised.com/