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You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by piface »

mrlinx wrote: post #30
piface wrote: post #29

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I have no empathy for your sad feelings about your score.

sry, wrote 19 instead of 26. still not sure if I care about you caring. but I do care more than you I guess.

I was making a joke. Or apparently confirming my score of 16.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by mrlinx »

piface wrote: post #31
mrlinx wrote: post #30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

sry, wrote 19 instead of 26. still not sure if I care about you caring. but I do care more than you I guess.

I was making a joke. Or apparently confirming my score of 16.

I did get your joke, and made one on top of it. I would guess we both have improvement to be made.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by piface »

mrlinx wrote: post #32
piface wrote: post #31

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I was making a joke. Or apparently confirming my score of 16.

I did get your joke, and made one on top of it. I would guess we both have improvement to be made.

Wow. I am retarded.

I'm going to go look for friends at an Aspberger's Meetup group now.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by hugs »

jasminaata wrote: post #3
mrleinad wrote: post #2

Is this really a true story? Can you tell us a bit more about it? I'm not asking for details that would identify her, but for more details on how she got there.

Hi, yeah this is a true story and it is about me. Ask me anything.

Come say 'Hi!' at the next Selenium meetup! :-)

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by deadmansshoes »

ComputerGuru wrote: post #21
curiouslurker wrote: post #17

Somewhat misleading headline I think given the content of the article but still a valid point. My question to you folks out there is this: I came across this statement sometime back and realized I need to change my friends if I am to better my situation. My friends, while good people, are not goal oriented and have for all intents and purposes given up. The people who I'd like to hang out with and who can help me gro…

Just like anything else in life, you have to do this step-by-step. First, don't sell yourself short. You have some valuable attributes and characteristics that others will find valuable. You find a friend or group of friends who are a notch or two closer to where you want to be, people that have something valuable to give you and to whom you can give something back . You slowly replace your friends with "better" ones…

"You slowly replace your friends with "better" ones"..."will make you more of who you want to be"

I believe the talented Mr Ripley used this strategy to good effect. There's a saying about never trust anyone who doesn't have at least one friend left from childhood.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by MostAwesomeDude »

mrlinx wrote: post #15
MostAwesomeDude wrote: post #11

I'm a 99% introvert, with an EQ of 42. This post really fails to account for outliers; sometimes people are simply far out of line with respect to the average.

hello there fellow intovert. quick question, where did you measure your EQ?

I took a standardized test at school around half a decade ago. I don't remember which one. It was normalized such that 100 is average.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by buf »

georgieporgie wrote: post #8

What? What was with the Eventbrite 'brogrammer' paragraph? You seem to say that 'marrying' social life and technology is a bad thing, but it's the segue into her (apparent) use of user groups and networking to further her career. Also: Bottom line: If the main topic of conversation you have with your friends is not how you can better yourself, you need to get new friends. Uh. No. If you drop universal statements like…

The 'brogrammer' line was my vain attempt to drop some humor into the article. I'm an engineer, not a writer, and I'm learning through comments like the ones you made to better my writing for the future, and to find out what is appropriate and what is not.

Thanks for the feedback.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by egypturnash »

I take issue with that 'bottom line'. I have friends who I hang out with and talk about the business side of what we do, yeah. We also spend a hell of a lot of time just kicking around and critiquing PROJECT IDEAS, and sharing the stuff we've found that we think is pretty awesome.

Re: You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends

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Post by zyfo »

If the main topic of conversation you have with your friends is not how you can better yourself, you need to get new friends.

Or, put another way, if you prefer to read fiction and non-personal non-fiction rather than self-help books you need to get some new books. Why? Because Oprah said so.

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