I think you're basically describing the current ecosystem. :)
ARC allows what you describe for mailing lists, only, even better, it's machine-readable--the message metadata indicate that "Jane User" sent the mail, according to "Some Mailing List", and that Jane User's email was verified per DKIM!
And MTAs can (as you note) require bidirectional confirmation for forwarding and (as you note) can easily identify which authenticated senders actually sent the mail and, if they determine it's an open relay, bitbucket it!
So what you describe is pretty much the status quo, I think. The fundamental issue with the YouTube mail the author has encountered, of course, is that the forwarding domain is authenticated as having passed on an (unmodified) YouTube.com email, and Gmail--quite reasonably, I think--just doesn't know enough to know if the Gmail recipient of that forward wanted it. Since the message has no obvious signs of spam (like linking to a suspicious domain), it seems reasonable to me to treat this like any other authenticated, non-spammy email from a domain Gmail has not seen much volume from before (which I assume is the case here).
Ultimately, even with DKIM, DMARC, and ARC, email allows people to send mail to people they've never communicated with before, and this is an important function to preserve!
(As an aside, I totally acknowledge that a) the protocol complexity in email is a lot worse than it could be if all this functionality was built in up front, and b) there are alternative tradeoffs we could make that would remove some of this complexity. And the complexity is obviously a problem for user comprehension or else we wouldn't be having this conversation! But, fundamentally, if we want to make significant changes, we would have to revisit seemingly desirable features like non-matching envelope and header To, allowing unsolicited email from other people, authenticated forwarding, etc.)