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Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by miltondts »

cehrlich wrote: post #199

Not great. A bit more than two years ago my wife went back home to Japan to give birth to our daughter. Then covid hit and her stay there was prolonged. At some point she decided she'd rather stay there permanently. I accepted that she wasn't going to change her mind, so I started doing everything I can to prepare for a variety of possible futures: - Learning web development to transition from my current career as a…

"At some point she decided she'd rather stay there permanently."

I don't know anything about you or your relationship, but in my experience that is not how a healthy relationship works. The couple decides together what is best for both. So right there that seems like a huge red flag. Another thing is. Have you talked with her about your difficulties? Finally, it's probably a good idea to talk to a therapist (or a good friend) to get some outside perspective. Hope you get better soon.

Edit: Also, most foreigners share the same experience of moving to Japan.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by spacetraveler11 »

Kind of okey.

* Started working on side projects again. Need to develop a workout app for myself so I can track my activities at the gym and make sure I get enough variety in my exercises. Maybe I can turn it into sth. releasable that could help others with similar physique as I had (skinny/hardgainer type) to gain some muscles. Feel like there could be more out there to help people who are naturally rather skinny to get success at the gym. Also started working on small game-dev projects just for fun for now. Making a few prototype games, exploring mechanics and seeing if any turns into something fun that I want to invest more time into.

* Mixed success at managing my mood and anxieties, working on not falling back to coping behaviors and instead just accepting the thoughts and feelings I get. Feels like I'm doing a LOT already but it's still tough sometimes. Also, working hard to not get overwhelmed with what's going on in the world. Being honest with myself I have very few excuses though because I'm healthy and privileged (work, education, living in a rich country).

Work is okay and I like the team I'm in. It's not particularly purposeful but on the other hand not stressful at all right now and they offer quite a supportive environment (home office whenever I want, out-of-company counseling). Looking forward to reducing my working hours to 4 days / week (again, very privileged). Other software devs are probably making much more money than me but maximizing my income by switching jobs is not sth. I'd want to do now.

That's it for now, have a good weekend!

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by spacemanmatt »

heurisko wrote: post #63
valbaca wrote: post #31

I think overall things are better but definitely some areas of worry. I took last week off and really just enjoyed a staycation of doing whatever I felt like. Practiced guitar, read some, played Magic like every day, and had the time & stress capacity to handle our fridge going out suddenly. The main thing is I'm worried where things are going . For the first time, because of the market, I'm projected to make less th…

> stack developer. I may not have direct experience with Your Thing but I've worked on a hundred things I didn't know because I can fucking Figure It OUT. I have the degrees, I have the experience. Oh and your little LeetCode problems are bullshit. NO ONE is out there finding the longest increasing subsequence of an integer array." If it's any consolation, I have a decade's worth of experience on the job, and I once…

This resonates with me SO MUCH. One time I aced a code test but didn't answer the questions about complexity in "big O" notation because I lack that formal training. My code 100% exposed my understanding of computational complexity but they wanted specific words regurgitated. Ran into that manager at a burn, bagged on him (we're friends!) a bit about it.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by orzig »

racl101 wrote: post #10

Just wish I had more time off. Got a lot of vacation days. But our team is so small that taking the time off makes me feel guilty. Conversely, if I don't have at least 4 days off in a row I don't know how to just relax and not try to do work. I don't enjoy watching movies or TV anymore cause all I can think about is the fact that I'm not being productive. I haven't gone to the movies since 2019 (since COVID) and I've…

Take slowly increasing amounts of time off - think of it as helping to build team resilience. In all seriousness it's a necessary part of team health, and a pre-planned, well-communicated few days is absolute "easy mode" that they can use to ladder up to the inevitable unknown-unknown they will someday have to face.

If nothing else, you will someday retire!

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by qgin »

racl101 wrote: post #10

Just wish I had more time off. Got a lot of vacation days. But our team is so small that taking the time off makes me feel guilty. Conversely, if I don't have at least 4 days off in a row I don't know how to just relax and not try to do work. I don't enjoy watching movies or TV anymore cause all I can think about is the fact that I'm not being productive. I haven't gone to the movies since 2019 (since COVID) and I've…

> But a part of my brain says that I can't spare the 3+ hours that it takes to go to the theatre. That it would be unproductive.

Why is it important to always be productive? What bad things would occur if you were less productive?

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by Robin_Message »

corrral wrote: post #115
skrebbel wrote: post #75

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think it's extremely scary that in the world's richest country, writing stuff about schools like "we don't have metal doors", "our barricade procedure" and "stopping power for bullets" is considered perfectly normal. I was reading your comment and I just WTF'ed 5 times in a row. As a European, it's hard to wrap my mind around how simultaneously awesome and terrible the US has become. I feel terrible for you, and I'…

It's both insane that we have so many school shootings, and insane that we've spent so much money fortifying schools and traumatizing teachers and kids (find some teachers and ask them how people react even to pre-announced active shooter drills—people break down shaking and crying, have actual fight-or-flight responses kick in, et c., when those fake gunshots start, and that's the adults ) in response. The former is…

I'm sorry, there are fake gun shots in active shooter drills? What the fucking fuck? That is insane. What possible benefit could there be to that bit of simulation that would outweigh the additional trauma that would cause?

Not to mention all the survivors of school shootings who presumably have the dubious pleasure of being retraumatised on an annual basis. Fuck.

You're right on "do something". But fuck. I never guessed anyone would make it deliberately more traumatic.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by aaaaaaaaata »

spacemanmatt wrote: post #203
heurisko wrote: post #63

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> stack developer. I may not have direct experience with Your Thing but I've worked on a hundred things I didn't know because I can fucking Figure It OUT. I have the degrees, I have the experience. Oh and your little LeetCode problems are bullshit. NO ONE is out there finding the longest increasing subsequence of an integer array." If it's any consolation, I have a decade's worth of experience on the job, and I once…

This resonates with me SO MUCH. One time I aced a code test but didn't answer the questions about complexity in "big O" notation because I lack that formal training. My code 100% exposed my understanding of computational complexity but they wanted specific words regurgitated. Ran into that manager at a burn, bagged on him (we're friends!) a bit about it.

Could you clarify "big O" and "a burn"?

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by aaaaaaaaata »

Robin_Message wrote: post #206
corrral wrote: post #115

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's both insane that we have so many school shootings, and insane that we've spent so much money fortifying schools and traumatizing teachers and kids (find some teachers and ask them how people react even to pre-announced active shooter drills—people break down shaking and crying, have actual fight-or-flight responses kick in, et c., when those fake gunshots start, and that's the adults ) in response. The former is…

I'm sorry, there are fake gun shots in active shooter drills? What the fucking fuck? That is insane. What possible benefit could there be to that bit of simulation that would outweigh the additional trauma that would cause? Not to mention all the survivors of school shootings who presumably have the dubious pleasure of being retraumatised on an annual basis. Fuck. You're right on "do something". But fuck. I never gue…

I will not argue the efficacy of the drills. I don't support them, I don't know the data, etc.

But, if you're going to do a drill, and it's known to be a drill, practice like you play the game; if loud gunshot sounds freeze your escapees or their teachers to the point where they're not preserving themselves, the drill was for nothing.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by aaaaaaaaata »

devin wrote: post #118
farmerstan wrote: post #84

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think the answer to education is to break up large schools and have schools that are no larger than 100-150 kids in total. 10x the number of schools and have individual attention to kids and teachers both. Fire the bad teachers quickly. Have larger communal facilities for things like sports and more outdoor activities like a form of scouts.

Respectfully, nobody asked your opinion. Your reply is not responsive at best.

Hey, Keybase is owned by Zoom now, FYI..
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