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Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by taesu »

throwaway99923 wrote: post #97

Not great. I got separated and have been struggling with depression the last couple years. I'm stuck in a foreign, expensive location paying spousal support so I barely have any money left over and no family and few friends. Rents keep going up and I don't see how I'm ever going to buy a place now or retire. My single friends who are junior to me are grinding leetcode and getting into big tech companies, making twice…

compare yesterday's you vs today's you. comparing yourself to others is a losing game, often detrimental. I'd consider moving away from the current place of living and reorganize your thoughts.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by wnolens »

SapporoChris wrote: post #78
nsriv wrote: post #26

I teach on the second floor of a city school where budget issues mean we don't have metal doors to the classrooms (older building, first floor has them). Every room has a metal cabinet though, and so our barricade procedure for the room is to lock the door, slide the cabinet in front of it, then kick out the furniture sliders from underneath the cabinet. Today, us second floor teachers pooled our personal money (near…

I do value the teaching profession, I wish the pay was better. Despite the current events, I do not think they need more protection. I am in favor of gun control and I am in no way saying there are not issues. If you look up professions with the highest death rates. Teacher's are fairly low on the list, if they show up at all. https://www.insidermonkey.com/blog/15-professions-with-the-h...

The collective trauma to kids in the USA who don't feel safe at school is heart-breaking. Trauma doesn't evaporate, it warps you. Especially at that age.

The statistics of it being improbable to die at school are no salve.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by taesu »

turkeygizzard wrote: post #88

It’s been a rough year for me. Was burnt out from working 70 hours a week at a small startup so I decided to start interviewing. Hit my head and had severe concussion symptoms for about four months. It was extremely difficult to manage work and still try to prep for interviews. Kept putting them off til January. Those several months were really crappy and I missed out on a lot of nice things planned with friends and…

You must be very disoriented. If I were you wouldn't even come to hacker news but you did. You are already doing well. Hope you pull through this.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by nsriv »

farmerstan wrote: post #84
nsriv wrote: post #26

I teach on the second floor of a city school where budget issues mean we don't have metal doors to the classrooms (older building, first floor has them). Every room has a metal cabinet though, and so our barricade procedure for the room is to lock the door, slide the cabinet in front of it, then kick out the furniture sliders from underneath the cabinet. Today, us second floor teachers pooled our personal money (near…

I think the answer to education is to break up large schools and have schools that are no larger than 100-150 kids in total. 10x the number of schools and have individual attention to kids and teachers both. Fire the bad teachers quickly. Have larger communal facilities for things like sports and more outdoor activities like a form of scouts.

I understand the impulse for smaller schools, trust me. I think you'd be surprised to look into city schools and the capacities they were originally built for, compared to the amount of students they serve today. Part of that is land value and construction costs, but many urban schools are in a version of just-in-time maintenance. Your solution for more smaller schools is at play in suburban areas, and result in some really high-quality private schools. In the US at least, most school expenses are funded through property tax, so higher land value and wealthier areas are able to support better schools.

IMO there's a lot of credentialism in education already, need a master's degree to be certified (I do not, so I am a beneficiary of the shortage of math teachers since they needed to relax requirements to get people in classrooms). You can imagine my views on teachers' unions differ from yours, but firing bad teachers presumes supply outstrips demand.

High schools in particular have already become those communal neighborhood facilities for sports with baseball, basketball, tennis courts.

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Post by tetraca »

tmn wrote: post #79
tetraca wrote: post #67

Selling my home would give me and my family incredible relief - we don't like living there for a variety of reasons. But I don't have the money to buy a home until I can pull the money from this one, and I can't sell this one without finishing up some improvements, and I can't get those improvements done on a sane timescale, because everyone is busy (including me). I'm at about a point where I wonder "Would someone g…

I don't know where you live, but there are a lot of investor type buyers who buy with no on site visit or inspection. Or generally don't mind taking on the site improvement issues. You may also be able to get a deal in place where you sell and agree to rent for x months. Do you know that you need to make the improvements to sell? As in, have you actually tried to sell?

I haven't tried, but I always imagined that my house isn't very attractive to flippers or investors, because it's a condo. The HoA disallows its use as a rental in the covenant, and any serious improvements need to be done by a licensed contractor and permitted (my bathroom remodel took probably a year longer to get started because we had to submit plans with the city with an architect to do some retiling).

Near every sale I've seen of things in the area were in a very "ready-to-move-in" state, so I've been trying to finish reaching that.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by nsriv »

SapporoChris wrote: post #78
nsriv wrote: post #26

I teach on the second floor of a city school where budget issues mean we don't have metal doors to the classrooms (older building, first floor has them). Every room has a metal cabinet though, and so our barricade procedure for the room is to lock the door, slide the cabinet in front of it, then kick out the furniture sliders from underneath the cabinet. Today, us second floor teachers pooled our personal money (near…

I do value the teaching profession, I wish the pay was better. Despite the current events, I do not think they need more protection. I am in favor of gun control and I am in no way saying there are not issues. If you look up professions with the highest death rates. Teacher's are fairly low on the list, if they show up at all. https://www.insidermonkey.com/blog/15-professions-with-the-h...

Appreciate your wishes for better pay and stance on gun control. One of the subjects I teach is stats, and I wish I could draw comfort from that statistic myself.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by seer »

jaqalopes wrote: post #104
seer wrote: post #91

Just ended a 10 year relationship, better than most people have in a divorce I guess as we were not married and didn’t have children - the major point of contention. I wanted to start a family and build something lasting, and my partner apparently didn’t. I now have to go ahead and learn all the new “rules” for dating, and seek a new partner with all the misses that it would probably entail. Not what I wanted at all,…

I feel for you. If you did in fact "just" get out of the relationship, I strongly recommend taking a while off dating to just be single and rediscover who YOU are, on your own. I don't mean you can't go out/on dates or have a sex life, just that you should keep an eye out for the temptations of a rebound relationship that isn't actually a good fit or happening for the right reasons. It's a real hazard and one best av…

Yeah will try to for sure, my friends are all advising the same, thanks for the advice too.

Re: Poll: How are you doing currently?

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Post by nsriv »

devin wrote: post #118
farmerstan wrote: post #84

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think the answer to education is to break up large schools and have schools that are no larger than 100-150 kids in total. 10x the number of schools and have individual attention to kids and teachers both. Fire the bad teachers quickly. Have larger communal facilities for things like sports and more outdoor activities like a form of scouts.

Respectfully, nobody asked your opinion. Your reply is not responsive at best.

This is one of those issues that people have a myriad of solutions for that they want to share, and I've just learned to appreciate the mental effort as it's usually coming from a genuine place. Too often though it's like, "if we just changed urban zoning laws and new construction requirements and how society operates and the societal expectations of parents, children, and child-rearing, we could really solve this gun problem!"

Sure, but IMO let's get guns out of people's houses and harder to get period.

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