Jeff Atwood On Parenthood
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Jeff Atwood On Parenthood
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#2Beautifully written!
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#3"choosing to become a parent is the hardest thing I have ever done"
Actually, I'd imagine that that bit is pretty easy because the subsequent parts (as described in the article) cannot be imagined before they happen. Thus choosing to become a parent probably looks pretty easy.
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#4I couldn't agree more with Jeff. I myself have said it on multiple ocasions, having a kid is an emotional roller coster. It's amazing just how much you fall in love with them and with life, but there also quite a few moments where you just wanna disappear, leave it all behind and just... rest...
These times are a real challenge. You HAVE to deal with it, you just cannot give up, and most of the time there isn't really anyone else that can cover for you.
It is, by far, the most difficult thing I've ever done.
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#5I whole heartedly agree. Our baby is 1 next week and it has been, without doubt, the most amazing, terrifying, tiring and joyous year.
Can't wait to teach him to code.
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#6I couldn't agree more with Jeff. I myself have said it on multiple ocasions, having a kid is an emotional roller coster. It's amazing just how much you fall in love with them and with life, but there also quite a few moments where you just wanna disappear, leave it all behind and just... rest... These times are a real challenge. You HAVE to deal with it, you just cannot give up, and most of the time there isn't reall…
"It's amazing just how much you fall in love with them"
And how quickly - I can vividly remember being handed my son by the midwife and having the immediate reaction of "my overriding concern in life is now to protect and love this wee thing".
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#7There's not an original thought in Jeff's post and it's wonderful. Yes, becoming a parent is exactly like that.
The birth of my first baby was pretty difficult for my wife, because of injuries that happened because of incompetent midwives. My wife was very crippled for the first week, our daughter had a hard start to life outside the womb, and our family was almost completely useless so I had to do nearly everything (the new midwife was great, though); oh, and just to make it perfect, our dog sliced her paw deeply open on some glass four hours after we returned from the hospital who had kicked out my injured wife at 5am because they didn't have space. That week was the happiest of my life. If I ever am in need of cheering up, I just need to think back to changing my first blood-stained nappy.
As Jeff sort of said, becoming a parent is weird.
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#8> 49% incredible pain in the ass, 51% most sublime joy you've ever felt; that one percent makes all the difference.
Between 49 and 51 I count a difference of two percents?
> Turns out, we're having two babies, due in mid-February 2012.
Aha. Let's talk again in a year or two, see who you'd throw under a bus.
I have three of those myself. I don't really subscribe to this whole "kids are wonderful" cliché.
The first kid, it's wonderful, yes (but this has been said before, no?) The other kids? Let's say I would agree more with Louis CK:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcnXpOygKGI
Edit: downvoters should try to take care of my kids for a few days ;-)
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#9"choosing to become a parent is the hardest thing I have ever done" Actually, I'd imagine that that bit is pretty easy because the subsequent parts (as described in the article) cannot be imagined before they happen. Thus choosing to become a parent probably looks pretty easy.
Well it is choosing to become a parent if you know what it is like to be a parent. So that makes sense only in in retrospect.
Q: So why do people have more than one child?
A: Because they are so sleep deprived they don't remember how difficult it was handling the child after they are born ;-)
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#10I couldn't agree more with Jeff. I myself have said it on multiple ocasions, having a kid is an emotional roller coster. It's amazing just how much you fall in love with them and with life, but there also quite a few moments where you just wanna disappear, leave it all behind and just... rest... These times are a real challenge. You HAVE to deal with it, you just cannot give up, and most of the time there isn't reall…
I don't know, reports suggest a lot of people give up.