61–70 of 264 posts
Earlier quoted context omitted.
> HN is a strongly self-selected group of people, with rules against bad-faith arguments I'd love to see those rules enforced someday. There are plenty of examples of such arguments to be found here.
https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor...
I think people portray themselves differently in different contexts. Everyone is a caricature, but which side they emphasize depends on who's watching. Someone might be a skirt chaser among college friends, a board game freak on Instagram, and a virtue signaler on LinkedIn. It's still the same person, with the same opinions.
The other side of the coin is algorithms. I like chess memes and basically the internet will highlight all of my friends who are into chess memes. When I'm angry at anti-vaxxers, suddenly everyone else is. Whenever I complain about the drop in KFC quality, I find that everyone I know is just furious about KFC.
It's why I stopped using FB and Twitter; it's basically a warped mirror. Plus the algorithms encourage being a caricature. It's the PewDiePie effect - the difference between a gamer and a millionaire celebrity gamer is that the celebrity is always hyperactive and screaming at stuff. There's also a kind of tribal effect in play.
For in-person discussions, we should probably factor in the nature and depth of the relationship. For example, if I'm just chatting with someone at the park, I don't expect them to welcome a serious critique of views they espouse. But if I've known that person for a long time, and we're invested in each other, then I'm more likely to challenge or at least discuss touchy matters. Internet discussions, depending on the…
Mostly you just need to catch certain people at the right time to have those kinds of discussions.
People don't feel guilt online, generally, because they either forget the person they are talking to is a vulnerable human, or they just imagine them as someone deserving of their vitriol. However, as soon as they are sat in front of someone and are picking up on the visual clues in facial expressions and body language which make it clear that what they are saying is actually affecting a real person with feelings, al…
To quote a great pugilist who recently laid his hands on someone outside of the ring (and not for the first time), I think the answer is really simple: "Social media made y'all way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it."
Earlier quoted context omitted.
https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor...
I meant for real, Dan - like bring down the ban hammer more forcefully. Let's get serious about cleaning up this place.
On the Internet I can bash anyone on any topic without obvious indicators that there is a real human being on the other end of the conversation that I may be hurting.
Also this community tends to attract contrarians who believe they know better that the majority of people on many topics, for better or worse.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor...
I meant for real, Dan - like bring down the ban hammer more forcefully. Let's get serious about cleaning up this place.
There has to be a little room for jokes and sarcasm and "devil's advocacy," as that's part of how real people talk about things.