Why do you waste so much time on the internet?

Post by mypalmike » Fri, May 06, 2022, 11:36 PM UTC

bluefirebrand wrote: post #420

rchaud wrote: post #413

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Much like making new friends past university, therapists are a crapshoot. Some simply aren't a good fit or have poor sofa-side manner or fail to develop a sense of trust. If the therapy is part of an employer funded benefit, you also only get a limited number of sessions, and only with the employer-approved provider.

Also, your employer funded therapist will likely have a specific mandate to basically help you get back to work, meaning no longterm solutions or help, only bandaids.

Post by rhizome » Fri, May 06, 2022, 11:43 PM UTC

brimble wrote: post #65

alisonkisk wrote: post #26

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is it ADD or is it just a common pattern of human nature? Is eating sugar when it is offered a disease, or an environment that is toxic to instincts that usee to suit us well?

I'm reminded of Scott Alexanders musing re: whether someone "has ADD" if they have trouble focusing on things that are simply boring as fuck, like looking at spreadsheets (or code...) all day every day, week, after week, after week. But then if all their peers are in fact outperforming them, because they're already all self-medicating for ADD symptoms, or have a prescription for ADD meds, so they can focus on somethi…

Post by devmor » Fri, May 06, 2022, 11:49 PM UTC

emadabdulrahim wrote: post #154

devmor wrote: post #142

I am addicted to absorbing information. Always have been. I had textbooks about random subjects as a kid (my favorite was a geology book mainly on Groundwater), and my most used computer program before my family got internet access was an interactive encyclopedia.

I'm curious, do you feel the motives for your voracious information digest are positive or negative? By that I mean, do you feel you're making up for something by wanting to learn as much as you can about different subjects? perhaps some kind of insecurity? Or is it just good old curiosity about the world and trying to be less ignorant each passing day?

Post by philosopher1234 » Fri, May 06, 2022, 11:57 PM UTC

mrmuagi wrote: post #431

drpotato wrote: post #378

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Mate, if you haven’t already, go talk with a therapist. I’ve struggled with avoidance my entire adult life – avoiding awkwardness, pain, risk, “bad”emotions, difficult conversations, conflict – and talking with a professional has really helped me.

Any tips on what type of therapist (psychologist, therapist, counsellor, etc.) and/or treatment you found effective? Sounds like talk therapy -- but did you go through other stuff as well?

Post by m463 » Sat, May 07, 2022, 12:04 AM UTC

nvusuvu wrote: post #138

spir wrote: post #29

I am addicted to twitter and reddit. Especially reddit. It often takes the place of reading, hobbies, quiet moments, improving my home, talking with my spouse, and playing with my baby. When reddit records a click or an upvote, it thinks it has been a Good Product, and created Engagement. Reddit then takes those feedback loops and tunes the algorithm and feedback loops to create further engagement. But in reality, th…

As a married husband (almost 20 yrs) and father of five kids, allow me to share some wisdom. Spouse time is vital to a healthy, strong, vibrant, lasting relationship. Reddit doesn't care about you like your spouse does. And kids grow up way too fast. Treasure every moment.