This is argument about argumentation, but it's worth examining what's wrong with the overall picture: Empathy is obviously not empathy if you make a spectacle of bending over backwards to look empathetic. It's an insulting act of selfishness unless the other person feels they've earned it. I think Jesus said something like this, but I can't recall it directly, since I'm drunk. To be an honest person you have to admit…
This whole thing is missing a trick and inverting genuine empathy. Empathy is being someone else, and this whole deal is "what if someone else was actually me". If you "steelman" someone else's stated position, you're filtering it through your values to make it more palatable to you. It's marking with a red pen, emotionally hollow.
I read a bit of the leaked supreme court roe v wade article yesterday, and had a moment of vertigo when it made sense for a second. There's a moral core there, something about consequence and family values and nosy neighbours and, yes, restricting women's freedom. Like, liberals try to make everything easy, but some things are supposed to be hard.